Workbook for Wisdom Wednesday (Your Free Gift)

Workbook for Wisdom Wednesday (Your Free Gift)

“Please take advantage of this planner to start the New Year off with a bang!”

 

Happy New Year, friends! How is 2018 treating you so far?

 

Did you notice the title for this week’s journal is a little different? That’s because, in the spirit of the New Year, and as a thanks to you for being my reader, I’m giving you a free gift.

 

The 2018 Yearly Planner

It’s the 2018 Yearly Planner printable workbook for your 2018 intentions. If you haven’t journaled yet about your 2018 intentions, please do.

Use my last Journal for Wisdom Wednesday’s post to help you!

There’s no strings attached. You don’t have to follow any of my social media profiles, take any challenges, or subscribe to my list. Of course I welcome you to do that and I hope you do, but what I hope more is that you’ll have an amazing 2018 because you took the time to think and write about your goals. I care about my readers. I want to grow and I want you to grow. Please take advantage of this planner to start the New Year off with a bang!

 

Your Assignment

There’s no usual prompt. I’ll get back to those next week. This week, your assignment is to print and fill out the planner workbook and set your spirit on fire!

As always, I would love to hear about any new insights you discovered while writing. Here’s your free gift:

 

 

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Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays: #7 Resolutions are Dead, Write Your New Year’s Mission Statement Instead

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays: #7 Resolutions are Dead, Write Your New Year’s Mission Statement Instead

New Year’s resolutions are dead.

 

Thank you for continuing to read Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

If you’re not familiar with the Journal for Wisdom Wednesday’s series, every week I post a new prompt to help you on your journey of self-discovery.  Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual and self-help hoo-ha too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you.

Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done! Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

P.S. If you haven’t already, be sure to check out my Discover Your Purpose… 10 Day Journaling Challenge. It’s written by me, for you, to help you find your purpose in life! If you still don’t find it, I promise you’ll be a lot closer! And don’t worry. You get the entire challenge all at once. It’s up to you to follow the rules. Plus, read page 3 for a fun extra! Just subscribe to my email list and I’ll send it now!

 

Getting Started

The Assignment: Writing Your New Year’s Mission Statement

Can you believe it’s nearly the NEW YEAR? What have you done this year? What haven’t you done? Have you made a New Year’s Resolution this year? Well, don’t. New Year’s resolutions are dead. I like to refer to New Year’s resolutions as negative intentions. This year I’m going to ask that you to NOT punish yourself with some wishy-washy goal that you probably won’t accomplish because it was ill-planned and subconsciously focused on something you don’t really want in the first place. This year you’re going to do something different and better! You’re going to write a positive intention along with a mission statement, and powerful mantra to increase your chances of success!

 

How to Write the New Year’s Mission Statement

First, I want you to write the main positive intention you have for this coming year…the one that’s most important. Maybe you want to lose weight, improve your marriage, or go to school. Pick your MAIN goal.

Let me give you an example of a negative intention, or resolution, so you better understand what a positive one looks like.

I’m going to lose weight” is a popular negative intention.

It’s an intention, or resolution, I’ve had probably every year until now, and it’s one I’ve failed every year. Why is this considered negative? Because it’s vague, it implies there’s something wrong with me, and there’s no power behind it. Don’t write your intention to look like this.

A positive intention, then, would be something specific, kind to you, and empowering! Let’s turn the negative intention above, into a positive one:

“I’m going to get healthier this year by taking a healthy cooking class, trying new kinds of movement, and working on my emotional relationship to food.” 

This intention is so much better! It addresses the real goal (getting healthy as opposed to losing weight), and it implements three specific actions to help accomplish this goal. Also, it leaves little room for failure because the goal is simple: getting healthier.

Yes, this intention is so much better! But it still won’t help you all by itself. You’ve got to put a plan behind those positive words! How will you accomplish this goal? Who can help you? What will determine your success? All of these questions should be answered before you can set out to accomplish your intentions. That’s why I created these questions to help you create your New Year’s Mission Statement.

Once you’ve decided on your intention, and answered the above questions, you can put it all together in a Mission Statement and keep it in a place you can return to for inspiration later.

Answer these questions:

What is your main positive intention for the year? 

This is what we discussed above. Something like, “I’m going to get healthier this year by taking a healthy cooking class, trying new kinds of movement, and working on my emotional relationship to food.” 

How can you accomplish this intention?

This is asking, what is in your power to do, to make sure you are successful? You’re getting more specific.

For example, “I’m going to take a monthly healthy cooking class at the YMCA, I’m going to hire a personal trainer, and I’m going to read 5 books about improving my relationship to food.” (It would be even better if you could name the books, but this is still great). 

Notice how I was more specific by stating when and where the cooking class would take place, and what I would do to implement more movement and research on relationships with food.

Where can I get support?

This means, who are some people you know will help and encourage you?

For example, “My spouse will check in with me weekly and discuss my progress along the way, and I can research healthy-living Facebook groups for support.” 

When you use a specific person for support be sure to explain exactly what you need from them, otherwise it can harm your relationship. You don’t want a person to nag you or make you feel down when you didn’t do something you meant to do. The more people or areas of support you have, the better!

How can I measure my success?

How you do this is completely up to you. What determines to you, that you have been successful? Is it a number? Is it how you’re feeling? Is it lab tests from your doctor? Is it a completed program or task?

For example, “I will measure my success based on a blood pressure, cholesterol, and weight check at my doctor’s office at the beginning of the year compared to the end of the year.” 

What is my mantra?

This goes at the end of your mission statement. It’s a powerful key phrase that’s short and easy to remember. It’s something you can repeat to yourself to help keep you on track. You want to keep your mission statement somewhere you can access and read it time and again but you probably won’t memorize it. Your mantra is your intention’s slogan. You may choose it based on a fear that’s been blocking you from your previous failed intentions.

For example, I have discovered I am afraid to lose weight because it protects me from something, so I chose my mantra to be, “Guts over fear.” Take some time to think of yours. Look at other mantras online for inspiration.

Put it Together and Say it Out Loud

Now, you want to put it all together into one cohesive statement, in the order of the questions above. It may feel awkward if you leave it worded as is, so feel free to revise it so that it looks better to you.

Example: I’m going to get healthier this year by taking a healthy cooking class, trying new kinds of movement, and working on my emotional relationship to food. I will accomplish this by taking a monthly healthy-cooking class at the YMCA, working with a personal trainer, and reading 5 books about improving my relationship with food. I can find support and encouragement from my spouse, who will discuss my progress along the way, and in a healthy-living Facebook group. I will measure my success based on my improvement of numbers from a blood pressure, cholesterol, and weight check at my doctor’s office at the beginning of the year compared to the end of the year. When I am having a hard day, or when I want to remind myself that I can do this, I will repeat the phrase, “Guts over fear.” 

When it looks good, say it out loud 2 or 3 times just to sink it in. Save this statement somewhere you can access it when you need a reminder of your full intention. Also, repeat your mantra 2 or 3 times on its own so that you can memorize it and say it to yourself later.

 

Reflect

Write or think about how you feel about your new mission statement. Do you feel like your intention this year is more specific and easily achievable? Is this better than setting a resolution like you may have done in the past? Do you feel more confident and ready to get started?

 

Consider This

You might be thinking this is a lot of work to put into your New Year’s intention when before, all you had to do was think up a simple resolution. But I ask you, did you take that resolution seriously? Did you achieve it? If yes, then awesome! You probably don’t need this prompt. But if you’re like me and didn’t, and actually want to accomplish something you set out to do this year because you’ve failed most other years, then you have to put a little more mental work into the process of setting goals.

 

Extra Credit

Don’t just write your mission statement and then forget all about it. Take this week to get plans in place for your success. If the above example was my new positive intention, then I would set up a doctor’s appointment, ask for recommendations on personal trainers, and be on the lookout for food-relationship books on Amazon.

Also, use this week to repeat your mantra several times so that you start to really believe it. Do it in the shower, before you go to sleep, while you’re driving to work, or when you’re waiting in line at Chipotle! Repeat it and repeat it again. Guts over fear. Guts over fear. Guts over fear. Guts over fear. Guts over fear.

Maybe even take a picture of yourself and edit it with your mantra!

Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. What’s your intention? How did it make you feel to write the statement? Do you have a plan in place? Like The Wiser Life on Facebook and Subscribe to our email list for notification of the next Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays! I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!

 

If you loved this journal exercise, you’ll love all the ones before it!

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Journal for Wisdom Wednesday #6: Understanding Your Relationship with Food

Journal for Wisdom Wednesday #6: Understanding Your Relationship with Food

Thank you for returning to Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

 

Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. These prompts are always written by me and inspired by my life. Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!

Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

 

Getting Started

The Assignment: Understanding Your Relationship With Food

This week is about food. Don’t you love it already? No, I don’t have any double chocolate cookies to pass around but I do want you to better understand your relationship to those cookies and other food you eat…or maybe don’t eat. Why is this important? Because so many of us have issues with how we think about food. It doesn’t matter if your overweight, underweight, or “just right”, you probably have some unhealthy and unresolved issues with your meals.

 

Write

First, imagine this: 

Let’s pretend for dinner last night you were super busy so you just grabbed a burger on your way home. You also grabbed some fries and a Coke. If you hate this particular meal, imagine something equally “unhealthy” that you might eat.

Write down how you usually feel before, during, and after such a meal. Don’t hold back. Talk about all the thoughts and emotions that go into your mindset of being hungry, deciding what to eat, what you feel while you’re eating and then how you feel after your meal. My response might look like this:

I hate being hungry and I especially hate being hungry and running late. I don’t want to pick fast food but I often will if the evening is just too stressful to cook. I would love for there to be a healthier fast food option. I could go to Subway but it seems a little more expensive. I’m usually excited to eat the meal but I always notice that it smells better than it actually tastes and I end up disappointed. After, I usually feel really full and mad at myself for eating something so bad for me. 

Now, imagine this: 

Tonight you are more relaxed. You want to eat something healthier because you feel bad about your last dinner. You spend time preparing a salad with grilled chicken and a light dressing. Again, if you hate this meal, imagine something as equally “healthy” that you might eat if you had the time to prepare it.

Now do the same you did with the first meal and write a response about how you normally feel in this scenario. How do you feel when you’re hungry? What are your thoughts about deciding to eat a “healthier” meal? How do you feel while you’re eating it? How do you feel after? My response might look like this:

Again, I hate being hungry which will often cause me to buy something or make a quick meal. I usually feel good about deciding to eat healthier but feel frustrated trying to make food I don’t normally make, especially if the ingredients are different, and then I feel disappointed that it doesn’t leave me as full or satisfied. I feel light and good while I’m eating it. I’m usually not hungry when I’m done, but I’m also not 100% full which is what I am used to. 

 

Reflect

What is similar about your thoughts and emotions for each meal? What is different? Think about it or write it out.

For me, I noticed in all cases that I hate being hungry. It makes me feel angry and encourages me to make rash meal decisions. This probably means I’m not snacking enough to keep it from getting to that point. I also noticed that I have negative feelings towards both the “unhealthy” food and “healthy” food.

 

Consider This

Why is it so important to understand your relationship with food. Because food is one of the BIGGEST parts of our health. It’s part of our survival, but it’s turned into entertainment and frustration. It’s not just about what you eat, it’s about how you eat, it’s about what you think about what you eat, it’s about how you feel about what you eat! I’ll talk about more in my next post, but your attitude about food affects the way the food affects your body. Healthy food is unhealthy if our attitude about it is negative. The same goes for junk food. Junk food is better for you if your attitude about it is positive.

I am not advocating eating a lot of junk food. I’m just saying having a positive attitude and grateful mindset about ALL the food you eat makes the food healthier for your body. Your mindset towards food is a huge part in healthy eating and it may be the part your missing if you’re feeling stuck now.

 

Extra Credit

Every time you have a meal this week, notice your thoughts and feelings about the food. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after. What would you like to change about your current attitude about food? What is working for you at mealtime? What’s not?

Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. How did it make you feel? What did you uncover?

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Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays #5: Discovering the Why Underneath Your Why

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays #5: Discovering the Why Underneath Your Why

Thank you for continuing to read Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual and self-help hoo-haa too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you. Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!

Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

Getting Started

The Assignment: Discover the Why Underneath Your Why!

This week we’re diving deep again. We’re going to practice a little exercise I learned in my health certification course. It’s called Discovering the Why Underneath Your Why.

What does that mean exactly? Well, it basically means uncovering your real reasons and motivations underneath all your superficial bullshit. It’s a fantastic way to answers your own questions and then really get down to the REAL answers.

Write

Here’s what you do:

Step One: Ask yourself a question, and write it down. Be specific, rather than asking a broad question. It can be anything that’s burning you up right now. Why can’t I lose weight? Why am I not happy in my relationship? Why can’t I find the right person for me? Why  can’t I commit to going back to school?

Example from my journal: Why can’t I lose weight?

 

Step Two: Turn your question into a want. Why you can’t lose weight is one thing…but what’s more important is discovering why this is something you want in the first place.

Example: Why do I want to lose weight?

Step Three: Answer your question. I know, the reason it’s a question is because you don’t know the answer. But go ahead and answer it anyway. Give it your best shot.

Example: I want to lose weight because I want to be healthier. I want to feel better. I want to look better.

Step Four: Explain why the answer to your question is so important to you. What’s so important about being healthier, feeling better, and looking better?

Example: If I was healthier, if felt better and looked better then I would be more confident and happy with myself.

Step Five: Explain why the answer to Step Four is so important to you. Why is it important for you be more confident and happy with yourself?

Example: Being confident and happy with myself will improve my ability to work with people and make me less afraid to start my own business.

**WHOA! Did you see what just happened here? I uncovered my fear. Why do I want to lose weight? Because I think it will improve my people skills and make me less AFRAID to start my own business.

Step Six: Repeat the process, if necessary (of answering why your previous answer is important to you), until you feel you’ve discovered your underlying fear.

Step Seven: Once you’ve discovered your fear…take it just one step further. Why is it important for you to improve your people skills and be less afraid of starting your own business?

Example:  It’s important for me to improve my ability to work with people and start my own business because it means I will have the necessary skills to be my own boss and control my own financial future.

So there you have it. Through this process I have discovered I want to lose weight because I feel it’s keeping me from having control over my financial future. It has nothing to do with my first initial surface answer about being healthy and looking better. I have discovered the Why Underneath My Why. Deep shit, people.

Reflect

Did this process work for you? If not, I’m happy to help so please comment or message me and I’ll help you figure out how to reframe it. If it did work for you, did your final answer surprise you? Did you have an ah-ha! moment?

Consider This

Why is it so important to uncover your deepest Why? Because, friends, your deepest Why is your deepest truth. It’s your purest motivation. It’s the answer to what may be stopping you from finding the solutions to your own problems.

Now that I understand why I really want to lose weight, I can better understand my initial question of why I feel I can’t lose weight. I understand now that I fear being out of control and I must think subconsciously that my weight is a representation of that.

So it’s not that I can’t lose weight, it’s just that I don’t truly want to for the reasons I thought.  Subconsciously speaking, losing weight suddenly equates being responsible for making more money!

I’ve obviously been putting way too much pressure on myself.

Extra Credit

Write about how your deepest Why uncovered the truth of your truest motivation. What is your superficial reason vs. your deeper subconscious reasons? Are you subconscious beliefs unhealthy like mine? Now that you’ve discovered this, how can you use it to help you? What does it change about how you approach solving this problem?

Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. How did it make you feel? What did you uncover?

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Journal For Wisdom Wednesdays #4: Your Favorite Things

Journal For Wisdom Wednesdays #4: Your Favorite Things

“You can love others the best only when you’re at your best.”

Thank you for continuing to read Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

I know, it’s not Wednesday. If you’ve been keeping up with me on Facebook, or popped in on the website the last few days, you might know that things have been a little messy. But we’re back on track now and I’m ready to get back to journaling!

Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual and self help hoo-haa too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you. Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!

Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

 

Getting Started

The Assignment: Your Favorite Things!

 

The last three journal prompts have been pretty intense, so this week, in the spirit of love and the holidays, let’s make it lighter.

The holidays are the time of year we give, give, give and give some more. It can be exhausting. I think we often forget that it’s also a time of year to really give to ourselves. That’s right. Love is infinite. Give as much as you want to other people but the secret is not to forget about #1!

 

Write

This week I want you to write a list of things you love. It can be simple things like a specific book, or things you love to do like horse-back riding, or places you love to be like the coffee shop on Tuesday afternoons, or even things you love to look at like a picture your grandfather painted. Basically, write a list of things that bring you joy. Real joy. The joy that makes you feel rejuvenated. And be specific. Here’s what part of my list might look like:

Things I Love:

  • Being alone on Thursday mornings so that I can take a nap or read a book 
  • Holding my infant daughter on the couch when she’s calm 
  • Good conversation with my husband
  • Taking warm bubble baths 
  • Drinking cold vanilla capichino
  • Drinking wine and talking with my close friend on a Saturday evening
  • Shopping at Michaels
  • Long hugs with my kids

 

Reflect

As parents, or women, or just general good human beings, we give and give a lot of love and support to other people every day. How often do you find yourself wishing you felt that kind of support? The crappier you feel, the more you need to put the focus on YOU. When is the last time you did any of the things on your list? Do you do any of them on a regular basis? If you haven’t, why? You can write about your feelings or just take a few minutes to think on it.

 

Consider This

Is it possible that you feel selfish for taking time away from others to do something you love? I used to feel the same way. But I ask you to consider this: you can love others the best only when you’re at your best. When we’re feeling emotionally and physically drained it’s impossible to show up for other people.

You may think you’re doing a really great job at putting on your brave face but people can feel it, especially your children. If you truly desire to be the best parent, spouse, friend or co-worker, then you have to show up for yourself first. The people around you will be able to feel how good you feel. You’ll make there lives better just by hanging around.

 

Extra Credit

Choose at least one item one your list and make it happen in the next seven days. Don’t just say you’ll try to do. That’s not showing up for yourself. You wouldn’t skip a doctor’s appointment for your child and you shouldn’t skip this either.

Make a plan. Schedule it. It should probably be something where you get to get away from your responsibilities, like having wine with a friend. If giving hugs to your children is one of your items, great, but we can work on that any time.

Make yourself a priority even if it’s only for 1 hour the entire week. If you have alone time, great! Set aside a block  that of time where you can be fully devoted to enjoying this one thing. If you don’t get alone time because you have little monsters running around the house then you’ve got to ask for reinforcement. Tell your husband he’s got the kids for one evening. Ask your parents or siblings to watch the kids. Pay someone.  If you’re convinced that you have absolutely zero options, then I might even suggest playing hooky for a day (And I would spend part of that day evaluating why you have no options).

Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. What did you do? How did it make you feel? Will you continue to do something for yourself every week?

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I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays #3: Discover a Deeper Gratitude

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays #3: Discover a Deeper Gratitude

Thank you for continuing to read Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual hoo-haa too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you.

Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!

Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

Getting Started

The Assignment: Discover a Deeper Gratitude 

This week, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, we’re going to explore a deeper gratitude. It’s easy to write what you’re grateful for. We’ve all done it. I’m grateful for my family, my children, my home, my job…  You know. The same old topics.

But what about the negative aspects of your life? Can we be grateful for the things that aren’t easy to be grateful for? Can we find the light in a very dark tunnel?

What could we possibly learn from life if it wasn’t a struggle?

Write

Instead of writing a list of things you’re grateful for, write a list of things that happened in your life that you still struggle to cope with or that you consider being negative events. For example:

I got divorced

I was in a car accident 

I was bullied as a child

My father was an alcoholic 

I had a miscarriage

Go deep. What past experiences cause you pain?

Now, challenge yourself to find something about these negative life events you can be grateful for.  Something like this:

I got divorced – If it wasn’t for my divorce, I would never have found the courage and desperation to start my own business. I am so much stronger and more independent than I ever imagined I could be. 

I had a miscarriage – After my miscarriage, I discovered a beautiful community of women who supported and guided me through the pain. I met my best friend there in my support group! 

My father was an alcoholic – Growing up with addiction made me a strong person who is able to fully understand the importance of helping people who struggle with addiction. That’s why I chose to be an addiction counselor, a job that I love. 

Consider This

Sometimes it’s very difficult to find gratitude for what may be a terrible event that happened in your life. So spend some time on this.

Think of it this way: These events may have caused you suffering, but where did they lead you? How did the direction of your life change? What did you learn? How are you a better person now through your experience?

You can’t really say, I’m so grateful I got hurt in a car accident. 

What you can say is, Because I was in a car accident, my life had to slow down significantly. I was forced to really think about what’s important and how I really want to spend my days. 

Reflect

Does anything about your newfound gratitude surprise you? Do you feel any sense of gratitude now towards this list of “negative” life events? Why or why not? Imagine none of these things ever happened to you. What kind of person do you think you would be then? Would an important part of you be missing?

Extra Credit

Choose an event on your list that has affected you most harshly. Circle it. Read it. Say it out loud. Write about it, if you want. Allow yourself to go back to that time. This can be quite painful, as the brain is not able to distinguish the pain of a memory from life in real-time. But if you think you’re ready, allow yourself to feel it.

Now, speak to yourself as if you’re another person, a wiser one. Give yourself permission to move one. Speak as though you’re talking to your younger self.

Say to yourself, It’s okay that (whatever happened to you). You are better now.  You are stronger now. It has caused you a lot of pain but you’re ready to begin letting it go. If it wasn’t for __________, then ___________ would not have been possible. 

I know this part of it feels weird and awkward but I ask you to do this because speaking your pain and acknowledging it out loud is a really important part of accepting it and moving it on. We may think we’ve gotten over it, but if all we do is think and never actually speak it, the pain will often come back to surprise us.

After you complete this exercise, report back and let me know how it went. Did you discover something new about yourself? Did you feel enlightened? Was it a form of release? What did it open up for you?

Don’t forget to check out my last post, also in relation to Thanksgiving, for your FREE Thanksgiving dinner planner printable!

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Comment below! Share as much or as little as you like about this experience. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays #2: Write Your Universal Order

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays #2: Write Your Universal Order

Thank you for continuing to read Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual hoo-haa too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you.

Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!

Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

 

Getting Started

The Assignment: Write your Universal Order! 

This week I want us to try something kind of fun. We’re going to write out our Universal Order. That’s right, we’re going to tell the Universe exactly how we want our life to look. We’re going to design our lives as if all we have to do is call up the Universe like we call up the local pizza place to have our dinner delivered.

While I haven’t been a spiritual practitioner long enough to notice crazy changes in my life, yet, I truly believe that the Universe will work magic in our lives if we meet it with action and believe it’s going to happen.

 

Write

Even if you don’t believe it and you’re not ready to take action, simply write down your best life on paper. And I mean your BEST life. Without guilt. Without shame. Without a single thought of money, time, or relationship restrictions.

Where do you live? How do you spend the majority of your time? Do you have kids, a spouse, or a better relationship with those who are already in your life? What does your house look like? How much money is in your bank account? How do you look physically? How do you feel emotionally? What kind of car do you drive? What kind of clothes do you buy? How are you making a difference in the world?

Write your life as if the Universe promised to deliver it exactly the way you asked for it. Feel excited about it. Imagine it was yours tomorrow. What would it feel like if you woke up and got to live this version of your life? How would your view of the world change?

 

 

Reflect

Does anything about your desires surprise you? Do you feel the life you wrote about is possible? Why or why not? Can you think of other people who live a similar life? Think about the fears that keep you from having this life. What’s one thing you could do now to diminish them?

 

Extra Credit

If you want to dig deeper and be braver, and you at least believe this life is possible, pick one thing from your Universal order that is most urgent. Maybe it’s health or career-related. Ask your self if you’re willing to go another day doing absolutely nothing to change this aspect of your life. If the answer is no, set a goal and write down some action steps to achieve it. Remind yourself that you have the power to change your life and every day you do nothing about it is another day you have to live a life that’s not awesome.

 

After you complete this exercise, report back and let me know how it went. Did you discover something new about yourself? Did you feel enlightened? Was it a form of release? What did it open up for you?

 

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Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays:  #1 Acknowledging our Fears

Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays: #1 Acknowledging our Fears

Welcome to our very first Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!

Starting today and ending…whenever I feel like it…I’m going to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual hoo-haa too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you.

Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!

Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!

Getting Started

This week I’m going to ask you to go in head first and acknowledge your fears. The number one reason we’re not living our best life, and actually living some crappy overrated version, is because we’re scared. There is no other reason. Maybe you can’t lose weight because you’re afraid of suffering due to lack of the food you love. Maybe you can’t have a well-paying job because you’re afraid to leave your mediocre one. Maybe you can’t find true love because you’re afraid to leave your current partner or you’re afraid to put yourself out there in the single scene. Whatever your problems are (both the ones you admit to, and the ones you don’t), the bottom line is FEAR.

Write

The very first step to overcoming these fears is to acknowledge they exist. Separate your journal page into 2 columns. Title the first column, Problem, and title the second column, Fear. Under the Problem heading, I simply want you to write a list of your problems. These are things in your life you hope to one day change. Some examples might say, I’m not happy in my marriage, I’m overweight, I’m always broke.

Now, directly across from your problem, under the Fear column, write the fear that corresponds to your problem. Respectively, this might say, I’m afraid of intimacy, I’m afraid that nothing can make me as happy as food, I’m afraid better jobs do not exist for me. This part might require a little more thinking time. Sometimes we have to dig deep to uncover the fear that’s blocking us from our solutions.

In some cases, your problem is one that you have completely no control over. For example, you might say, My mother is sick. You want this to change but it’s truly out of your control. Go ahead and write your corresponding fears about these issues as well. For this example, your fear might be, I’m afraid of losing her too soon.

Reflect

Does anything you wrote down surprise you? If so, why? In what way did you contribute to or create these problems? If the problem is not one you control, is there a way to ease your fear? You can write your reflections or simply spend time thinking about it.

Extra Credit

If you want to dig deeper, and be braver, make a third Column titled Action. In this column write a corresponding action you could take to ease these problems or even solve them. If you’re not happy in your marriage, this could say Counseling. If you’re overweight, this could say Walking. If you’re broke, this could say Search for new jobs. If it’s a problem out of your control, like your mother being sick, this could say Spend more time talking with mom.

You don’t actually have to go out and complete these actions steps today. Right now you are simply acknowledging the fear under your problems and the fact that you do have at least some control in making your situation better. And sometimes we have zero control over the solution but we do have control over our reactions and whether we choose to cope in a healthy way.

 

After you complete this exercise, report back and let me know how it went. Did you discover something new about yourself? Did you feel enlightened? Was it a form of release? What did it open up for you?

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