I’m looking for guest posts that elaborate on the connection between a healthy body and spirituality!
The Healthy Body and Spirit Connection
It started out as a simple request, but ended up drawing in a lot of interest!
In my spiritual journey, I’ve become really interested in the connection between a healthy body and spirituality. Is there a connection? Is a positive attitude really healthier? Can you heal yourself through spiritual means? What experiences and advice do others have to give on this topic?
I simply wanted a guest blogger to write a post about this topic and help to enlighten me and my readers. But as it turns out, many people are interested in writing on the subject! And there’s no reason not to accept all they have to offer!
So I’ve decided to turn this topic into a weekly blog series! Hopefully, starting next week, I’ll be posting one post from a guest writer about some aspect of the complex nature between spirituality and health.
The length of the series depends on the number of submissions.
How to Submit
Do you have something to offer this discussion? An experience? Or, advice?
I’d love to hear about whatever floats your spiritual, healthy body boat. There are no formal guidelines. Write whatever speaks to you. As long as it’s not completely against what I stand for, I’ll make it a part of the series and promote you on my site and social media pages during the week I publish your post.
Send your submission to thewiserlifeblog @ gmail .com and I’ll let you know what week you’ll be published!
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“Loving yourself is the healthiest thing you can ever do.”
If you’re goal this year is to lose weight, chances are, it was your goal last year too. Am I right? But you probably didn’t lose it, or not enough of it, or you gained it all back. Right again? You keep falling off the stupid wagon! But why?
I’ve figured out exactly what’s been keeping the weight on for me and I want to share with you what we can do beyond eating better and exercising to get it off and keep it off.
Here’s the problem:
1. You’re Not Doing it for the Real Reasons
You need to get CLEAR on why you want to lose weight. Why do you really want to accomplish this? You may think you know, but do you really?
I’ve talked about this before (finding the why underneath your why) in my journal posts, but I want to really express the importance of finding your big MOFA. What’s a MOFA? It’s your Motivating Factors! It’s the deepest reason(s) you want to do something. Read my post to find out how to discover your deepest reasons.
I want to wear a bikini to the beach, might be your surface reason. But, I want to gain the most confidence to start my business, might be your deepest truth, or your big MOFA. Sometimes we don’t even know why we really want something until we do the above journaling exercise.
If you’re continuously seeking to accomplish a goal for superficial reasons, you may achieve that goal for a short time, but you will eventually sabotage yourself and end up where you started. I know this because I’ve done it over and over. Understanding your deepest reason(s) why will connect you to your truest self and help you to predict and prevent behavior patterns.
2. You’re Trying to Create Habits You Have No Interest in Maintaining
I’ve started so many diets by setting goals that are unrealistic for my long-term situation or that don’t really align with what I enjoy doing or who I enjoy being. I’m not going to eat a salad daily because I don’t love salads. I’m not going to work out at the gym for an hour 5 days a week because I don’t love going to the gym.
Don’t make yourself do anything you don’t love the idea of doing. I know this sounds a little crazy but stick with me.
Movement doesn’t have to mean running at the gym, lifting weights, or going to yoga three times per week. Find movement you enjoy and fit it into your schedule in a natural way. What about swimming, walking, stretching, exercising with your baby, playing basketball with your teenage son, or doing an exercise video with your husband? Find something you like to do and then fit it into your weekly schedule in a way that is not overwhelming. You can even do it with people you love if you need to feel like you’re not taking time away from them.
And eating shouldn’t be so restrictive. Maybe you don’t like salad but you do love to try new things. You could make it a goal to try a new healthy dish at a restaurant once per week. Or, maybe make one new recipe per week at home. Or, look for healthy recipes on Pinterest and make them with the kids one night a week. Mix it up and allow yourself time to learn and discover what you like.
This is not an all or nothing situation. Being healthy is always a journey and never a destination. Take it slow. When you find things you like…then you know it’s something you will always want to do and you can begin to replace your old habits with healthy ones. Celebrate that you made the decision to be healthy and take it day by day.
3. You’re Looking for a Quick Fix
Maybe you’re getting married soon, going on vacation, or getting ready for an event and you need to lose the weight yesterday. You’ve tried every magic pill and shake under the sun. Sometimes you lost the weight, but gain it back. You want to hurry up and get it done so you work hard…but then you burn out. What gives?
This is similar to what I talked about for number 2. You must realize that habit change doesn’t happen over night. You can force yourself to lose the weight and do it fairly quickly but it will come back and you’re not actually doing it in a healthy way. Health is more than eating right and exercising. It’s a shift in your thinking patterns and lifestyle choices. This shift can only happen over time with lots of practice!
Quick fixes might work quick, but their results will also go away quickly. Practice makes perfect.
4. You’re Eating in Guilt and Shame
A doughnut you eat in gratitude and pleasure is always better for your body than a doughnut you ate in guilt and shame.
If you love Oreos, eat Oreos. If you love fries, eat fries. Don’t deprive yourself of these sweets or treats some of the time if you love them. But, do it in love and appreciation for yourself and the food that is entering your body. Understand that it’s purpose may not be to nourish your body, but to give you pleasure and fulfillment in the moment. Be grateful for what it is. But do not hate it or yourself for eating it.
If you do this, you will begin training your brain to be grateful for this food, and train your body to accept it as nourishment.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying eating fries and Oreos will do the same for you as carrots and broccoli, but I am saying there is a spiritual aspect to it. Be grateful for it instead of ashamed of it and you’re winning half the battle.
5. You’re Measuring Your Success with the Wrong Tools
Please, please, please…stop checking the scale. If you must check it, do it only once per week but do not use it to measure your success. If you lost 5lbs this week, you may feel extremely excited. But if you lost that 5lbs because you skipped meals and were feeling stressed, it was not really a successful week. That 5 lbs will probably come right back.
How else can you measure your success? You might notice… my skin is clearer, my pants are looser, my attitude is better. You may begin to notice you’re not craving soda, or have gone a long time without eating fast food. Maybe you’re starting get compliments from family and friends. Look for any other positive affirmations to help you remember that your health is not measured by the number on your scale. The scale is not even an accurate measure of your hard work.
If you had a positive healthy week and lost weight, then the number on the scale is just perk! But it is not a measure of your worth or work effort.
Celebrate all the other signs that you’re headed in the right direction. The most important validation is how you feel about your personal health journey.
If you’re serious about losing weight, I can help. But I only take serious clients!
Read more about mindful eating here.
And here are some easy healthy living tips to get you started!
I would love to see your comments about this issue! What has worked for you to keep the weight off or to help keep you on the right path to health?
“Simple lifestyle changes can transform your health and therefore improve every other area of your life.”
If you’re anything like I was, you’re probably addicted to carbs and/or sugar, and you’re not exactly fond of exercise. Actually, you’d rather complete high school all over again, than run for thirty minutes a day or switch to a clean-eating diet. I can’t tell you how many times I faked cramps to get out of PE (male gym teachers are so uncomfortable with the thought of menstrual cycles; works like a charm every time). This is something I most definitely need to analyze if I want to be a health coach (and part of the reason I was so insecure about pursuing it anyway).
But what I think most of us fail to realize is how simple and easy it is to be a basically healthy person. You don’t have to run if that’s not your thing, and you don’t have to limit yourself to eating only broccoli and lean meat. You just have to develop basic, healthy habits. If your health goal is simply to develop habits that will allow you live a longer life, not be a bodybuilder, then you simply need to focus on habits that will be easy to maintain for your lifestyle.
Simple lifestyle changes can transform your health and therefore improve every other area of your life.
Here are 8 easy ways to get healthy now.
1. Drink Water and Only Water
I know. I heard your sigh loud and clear through my computer screen. You’re thinking you can’t possibly drink as much water as you’re supposed to, or drink only water because that’s so boring!
That is always my problem. How can I drink the recommended 80oz of water a day?! But try to think of how many ounces of other liquids you drink all day (soda, juice, tea, coffee). If you counted your intake of those liquids I would bet it comes close to, or over the recommended water amount.
Your body needs a liquid that is not filled with caffeine and sugar, to help it function at its maximum level. If you have a hard time giving up caffeine and sugar in your drinks it’s okay to start small. Start by replacing one drink a day. If you normally would order a Coke when you go out to eat, order water with lemon instead. If you normally start with 3 cups of coffee in the morning, try 2 instead and replace the third with water. Infuse your water with fruits and vegetables, or try flavored water mixers like Mio.
If you have Will, you will find a way. Give yourself a break and ease into it, all the while believing you’re going to accomplish it.
2. Exercise for 10 Minutes a Day
You hate exercise, right? Or maybe you don’t hate it, maybe you just don’t have time for it. Not everyone can dedicate 30 minutes to 1 hour to exercise every day. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be 30 minutes, or even 20. All you need is 10 minutes a day to make a healthy difference in your life. It’s literally the least we can do.
Even if you hate it, (lord help me, I hate it) 10 minutes is almost nothing. If you really don’t have 10 minutes, then wake up 10 minutes early or go to bed 10 minutes later. While I was in the Weight Watchers program I learned that even 10 minutes of activity a day, every day, can drastically improve your health.
I would also like to mention here that you really shouldn’t take time out of life to do things you hate.
Find an exercise you like, or that you can at least tolerate because it’s not so miserable. Walk in place, lift your knees, do jumping jacks, walk up and down the stairs, or lift arm weights. We all have 10 minutes to spare, and if we don’t, we need to stop and examine what’s important.
I’ve started doing this recently and it’s made me feel stronger and more clear-headed throughout the day. The beautiful part about setting such a small goal is that once you realize how easy it is for you to accomplish, you may even decide to add more time as you go. When your body feels good, your soul will follow.
3. Stretch Your Body
If you really, really don’t want to do the exercise thing, I challenge you to at least spend a few minutes stretching your body. Or, if you’re super awesome, do both
Stretching is an easy and healthy way to release all the bent up stress that builds up in your muscles and joints. I kind of love just getting on the floor and pretending like I know all these awesome Yoga poses. I find ways to stretch my arms, my legs, my back, and torso. Sometimes I even plank (but not for very long, yet).
Move slowly. Focus on your breath, and reach for the sky. It feels a little silly when you first start doing it, but after a while, you’ll start to discover that it feels good. Sometimes, you even crave it. You can find some great beginners stretches here. Or, there are all kinds of beginner’s yoga videos on YouTube.
Stretching is a relaxing way to spend time getting to know your body.
4. Open Your Mind to Food
Just as with everything else in the self-help world, you have to open your mind to new possibilities. Stop saying you can’t eat this, or you won’t eat that, or you don’t like this, or you would never try that…etc.
If you say you can’t, you’re right. If you say you can, you’re also right. Which right do you want to be?
Try foods on the menu you normally wouldn’t. Try foods again that you’ve convinced yourself you didn’t like in the past. When I was a kid I HATED onions. As I got older and realized how many foods contain onions I decided people must like them for a reason. Now I understand how much flavor they can really add to a dish.
Try new restaurants. Try healthy recipes with ingredients you’re not familiar with. Educate yourself on foods you do love, but that aren’t healthy (personally, I love the Fooducate app for that). If you love food so much, help yourself to realize there is a whole world of food out there you haven’t even become acquainted with yet.
Healthy eating becomes so much simpler when you have more to choose from. You’re not going to like everything, but give everything an honest chance.
5. Walk Outside
Walking inside can feel boring and repetitive. Go for a short walk, even if it’s only 10 minutes, outside. Enjoy nature, notice your surroundings, listen to the sounds, focus on your breath, take time to clear your head and soak it all in.
Most of the general population can walk. It’s an easy and simple exercise. It’s something we’re good at and we have a lot of experience in. We walk every day to and from our homes and our jobs. We walk upstairs and down halls. Why not walk with the purpose of health and clarity?
I know when I don’t want to walk, I usually use the weather as an excuse. We’ve become wimps when it comes to hot, cold, or rainy. The truth is, for the majority of us, the weather is rarely severe enough that it keeps us from doing outdoor activities. At least where I live, there are probably only about 10-20 days a year where it’s so hot, so cold, storming, or there’s enough snow, that going outside is a really miserable experience.
If it’s cold, wear a coat and go out when it’s sunniest. If it’s hot, wear fewer clothes and go early or late in the day. Find a place where you like the scenery and enjoy nature. Mix it up! It’s not just about the exercise, it’s about taking a moment to notice the world around us and finding time to clear the clutter in our minds.
6. Maximize Your Time
If you really want to find small ways to live a healthier life, one way to do it is by getting creative with your time.
First, try combining daily activities with physical activities. I’m talking arm-curls while you watch TV, toe-touches while you’re in the shower, and butt clenches while you’re sitting on your ass at work.
Need to clean the house? Try speed-cleaning. Turn up the music and challenge yourself to do dishes, laundry, and dusting way faster than normal (please, don’t hurt yourself and then blame my blog).
If young children at home are an issue, like at my house, do it with them! Make family exercise time a daily requirement that you get to do together. Or, combine dinner and family time by cooking healthy meals together. I’ve found cooking together helps them be more open to trying new foods and be more appreciative about their plates.
The point is, you can give normal daily life a whole new purpose. Take your mundane tasks and add a healthy spin.
7. Make Me Time
If you don’t think your emotional/spiritual/mental health affects your physical health, then you’ve got a lot of reading to catch up on. You need Me time.
Me time is any time you spend on yourself doing things you love. Maybe it’s a bath, reading a good book, having dinner with a friend, crafting, writing or taking a nap. It’s time spent on yourself without any obligation to others. The problem with me time, especially for women, and especially-especially for mothers, is that we’re ingrained to believe it is the last priority. Our husbands are more important. Our children are more important. Dinner is more important. Work is more important. Making sure the TV is dusted, yep, more important.
As hard as it is to accept, none of that is true. Unless there’s an immediate crisis occurring in your space now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking, and in-fact demanding, me time. I would even argue that me time is most important in your life because it allows you to function at your highest level, therefore allowing you to be the best YOU, you can be, and therefore giving you the ability to take the best care of everything and everyone else in your life.
If you can’t accept that me time is most important, at least accept that it is equally important and know that you deserve it.
8. Take Your Vitamins
Taking your vitamins is the easiest habit of them all.
Food is so completely different now than it was even only thirty years ago, and not in a good way. It’s nearly a guarantee that you and I are not getting all the essential nutrients our bodies need to thrive. Do a little research and talk to your doctor about the benefits of a multivitamin (or perhaps other vitamins you may need in particular) and which one(s) is right for you.
Now, all you have to do is remember to take it. Set it on your nightstand or near your cell phone charger. Put it in your lunch box. Leave it on your desk at work or in your purse. Put it somewhere you will see it and remember to take it. If you’re a giant baby about taking large pills, go ahead and mash it up with some peanut butter, or even better, buy the adult gummies. Personally, Flintstones are still my favorite.
Getting healthy doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Start with one healthy habit a day, a week, or even a month if that’s what it takes. Slowly add in the other habits as you go. Approach it as a discovery process without adding any more pressure to your life. Look at your mistakes as opportunities to grow, and not as failures. If you have an open mind and a positive attitude, you’ll be feeling and looking better in no time.
Thanks for reading! Make sure you check out my Be Healthy board on Pinterest for even more ideas on making a healthy lifestyle more simple!
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“Target is good for your body, good for your mind, and good for your soul!”
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Target is a guilty pleasure, right? Well, don’t worry. I’m here to tell you, you don’t have to feel guilty about shopping there ANYMORE. Why? Because Target is GOOD for you. That’s right. Target is good for your body, good for your mind, and good for your soul! It can even be good for your wallet. Here’s why:
1. Target has Healthy Grocery Options
If you want to buy healthier food, Target is a great place to start. They have many healthy options to choose from that are organic and gluten-free. In this awesome blog post from another awesome blogger, you’ll find a lot of great healthy options from Super Target.
Plus, save time with Order Pick-up!
2. The Active Section at Target Makes You Want to Be Active
When I walk by the women’s active-wear section of Target, I’m totally like, “Man I would look cute working out in that. I really need to buy that and go work out.” Whether or not you actually work out after your purchase depends on your own personal motivation. I choose not to comment further.
3. Target Inspires Humor
I know you’ve seen this video. If you haven’t, and you love Target, you’re in for a sweet treat. Whenever I walk through the doors of Target now, I always pretend I’m Liza. Then I have to do it again, because I forgot my list. That girl is funny.
4. Target Saves You Money
Okay, I get that Target is pricier than some places (it’s also classier than some places…*cough* Wal-Mart) but have you ever couponed at Target? Couponing at Target is THE BOMB. Pre grad school, I was OBSESSED with couponing at Target. I’m not sure if it’s still as awesome, but back in the day you could combine manufacturing coupons with Target coupons with Cartwheel andREDcard! Plus, .05 more cents if you brought your own bags. How do they even make money like that? OMG. I once walked out with 6 boxes of cat litter fo FREE. FO FREE. And plenty of times I walked out with like 20 bottles of Panteen for $5.
Couponing is not for the sissy of heart. Cashiers may get cranky and look at you like you’re stealing… or crazy as shit. It’s actually jealousy. But everything I did was completely legal and followed the rules. Only a couple of times have I experienced a really kind cashier who thought my skills were pretty neato. If you’re interested in more, my best advice is to follow some Target couponing Facebook groups. Learning even the basics will save you some major dough. There is a learning curve so don’t get overwhelmed. Lurk in the groups for a while.
If you have an addictive personality, you may want to reconsider.
And…always make sure you read the Coupon Policy.
5. You Can Feel Good About Spending Your Money at Target
Target is an advocate for many important public issues, even when the issue is not so popular. They stand for women’s right to breastfeed in public, gender equality, and the LGBTQ community. In general, they strive for a society that is more diverse and inclusive of ALL people. Supporting them is supporting all. Read more about that here.
Plus, have you seen their Adaptive Clothing Line for kids? I’m in love!
6. Target Brings Out the Best in Us
Man, I don’t know what it is, but like I mentioned earlier, Target is just classier all around. I’m not judgmental. I believe everyone has the power to be awesome, but that doesn’t mean we always are. Certain places, *cough* Wal-Mart, for example, just don’t inspire me to brush my hair, or put on real pants.
Some other people, though, take it to a whole new level. I don’t know why, but at Target you don’t see people walking around shoe-less and in spandex. But at certain other places, this is not a surprising scenario.
I have never walked out of Target thinking, did I really just see that? Target encourages self-love and pride in one’s actions and appearance.
I mean, I think I always put on real pants when I go to Target. Sometimes, I brush my hair.
7. Target Encourages Journaling
I probably have 7 journals with not a word written in them because I can’t freaking pass up Target’s stationary section. I love to journal, but no one can journal that much! Still, every time I see a cute journal at Target, I feel like writing in it! If only I could journal in the store…
8. Target Has a Good Maternity Section
I’ve yet to find a store that really has a GREAT maternity section unless that’s what it specializes in, BUT Target is doing a great job to include a section as big as it does for us mammas. During my last pregnancy I found some really cute jeans that made me feel good about my body and some super cute shirts! Depending on your budget, it might feel a little pricey, but you deserve to feel fabulous during this special time, so go ahead and spend it! It’s nothing compared to pricier boutiques. And maternity clothes in good condition are a great buy-back at consignment shops.
It’s hard to tell here, but I’m wearing jeans from Target that made me feel good!
9. Target is a Great Place to Buy Unique Gifts
Target has so many fun things you can buy as great gifts. There’s so many cute things in the Home Decor section, so many mugs with unique and adorable sayings, and so many crafts to make from the Dollar Spot! There’s funny games and books. Did I mention cute journals?
There’s also lots of wine! Is wine a gift? (Side-note…did anyone hear the rumor about drinking wine while we shop? Is this real life? Tell me it’s true even if it isn’t.)
…And we’re back. Gifts. So many great gifts!
10. Target Has Giant Red Baskets in the Isles
I don’t know. I just really love the giant red baskets. Am I right?
There you have it. 10 reason you don’t have to feel guilty about shopping at Target ANYMORE! Don’t forget to use the links in the sidebar and footer if you want free shipping. Plus, DO NOT shop at Target without your REDcard. It can be credit or debit (I use debit, because I canNOT have more credit) and it saves you on EVERY transaction.
Comment below, pretty please! Share your Target love!
“Stop short-changing yourself, and everyone you love. When you’re at your best…every area of your life and every person in your life benefits… because they get the BEST you.”
If you’ve followed My Story, you know I’m training to be a Health Coach. I’ve been pretty open about it when people ask, but when you live in the Midwest and people around you don’t understand something, many times they don’t ask. They just look at you funny, nod, and smile. Or they look at me like the image below! Hahaha!
So let’s clear the air…
What a Health Coach Is
I’m not sure how other Coaches might answer this question, but I will tell you what I am training to be: A Master of Habit Change.
A great Health Coach does not simply give you advice, a ton of information, and then expect you to do the work. I mean, let’s be honest. You already KNOW what to do. You know what to eat, you know you should be exercising, and you know you can cut your stress levels and lose weight by doing A, B, and C. You’re simply not doing it. Why? Because it’s freaking hard, that’s why! Being healthy seems like a lot of work if you’re not used to it. You don’t know where to start. You’re not sure what to buy. You really don’t want to spend an hour a day at the gym, and you’re convinced everything causes cancer anyway, so why bother?
I HEAR you. Hell, I am you, or I was…not that long ago. The most important thing I have learned so far is that it doesn’t have to be so hard, so expensive, or so time-consuming. And everyone can do it if they have the right system in place, plus someone to give you a little kick in the ass a long the way.
You know what a football coach is, right? Well, it’s the same concept. I’m a coach. But instead of being a sports team coach, I’m a coach for YOU. Your very own personal coach for the game of life. And I’m not just here to support you…like a cheerleader, I’m here to STRETCH you. I’ll tell you when you’re doing great. I’ll also tell you when you can do better. There’s no diet or short-term fixes. I’m here to help you make changes that will last forever, so you can live the longest and fullest life possible. Coaches help you find your happy place.
What a Health Coach Is Not
A Health Coach is not a therapist, counselor, doctor, nutritionist or any other medical professional of the sort. However, they do share pieces of knowledge pertaining to each of these fields (depends on the Coach and their background). Coaches should not give you any professional advice that might affect your well-being in a negative way. Health Coaches can, however, refer you to such a professional if the scope of the problem goes beyond our reach and we can work together with these professionals to get you optimal results. It all depends on your unique situation.
Why Someone Might Want a Health Coach
A person might want a health coach for a variety of reasons. You might want a health coach to help you lose weight, manage stress, accomplish fitness goals, sleep better, hydrate better, gain weight, increase energy, improve eating behaviors, improve fitness habits, boost your body confidence, boost your nutrition, optimize any health goals, quit addictive behaviors, and so much more!
Why Health Coaching is SO Worth Your Money
Bare with me. I could write forever on this topic.
I’ve said this 100 times and I will say it a 1000 more. There is no better investment than an investment in YOURSELF. People who’ve never heard of a Health or Life Coach usually will roll their eyes, turn their heads, open their mouths and crinkle their noses at the first sound of the words Health Coach. And then when you talk about cost, their eyes get huge and they say, “Why would I pay you that? I already know how to be healthy.” Yeah, you do. So why haven’t you done it?
Yeah, having your own personal coach isn’t “cheap” but it’s not expensive either, when you break it down. I kind of hate it when I have to jump through hoops to figure out prices so I’m just going to be direct with you here. A starting coach can easily charge $1000-$1200 for a 90 day program and have no problem getting clients. That means you’re paying $11-$12 a day for a TOTAL LIFE TRANSFORMATION.
When your health is better, EVERYTHING is better. Your mental state is better, your stress level is better, your sex life is better, your confidence, your concentration, your social life, your parenting, your work and business skills…do I need to go on? Improving your health IMPROVES YOUR LIFE.
Broke? Yeah, me too. But that didn’t stop me from paying for the certification program, growing my blog, and buying personal development books. Because I know all this self-improvement is going to pay me big someday. Maybe you can’t have it now, but don’t tell yourself you can’t have it at all. How important is it for you to be healthy? Cut cable, reduce your weekly eating out limit, create a strict budget, or even apply for a credit card (with careful planning). Your health is that important, and being your best self will pay you back in so many ways.
If you still think it costs too much, ask yourself this: What could you possibly use that money for that would improve your life just as drastically? You probably spent that much money, at least, on fast food in the last three months. Am I right? I know I did not that long ago.
Stop short-changing yourself, and everyone you love. When you’re at your best…every area of your life and every person in your life benefits… because they get the BEST you.
A Special Deal for You
I’m still a newbie and I will consider myself a newbie until the program is over and I feel confident enough in my skills and ability to really hone in on my style and make the coaching program my own. That’s really good news for you because you get a MAJOR discount if you decide to work with me during this stage of my development.
Right now, I’m taking practice clients. And only a few. I can’t take too many because I’m still working a part-time job and raising an infant. If you’re interested… act now before I fill up with this special price.
Being my practice client doesn’t mean you get any less value for the program. The program is already done and mastered, ready to go for you… I’m just delivering it without knowing the whole picture yet, and maybe sounding a little scripted because I haven’t made it my own. That’s why I’m giving you a huge discount. Right now, I’m focusing on weight loss. So, you get the full Total Weight-Loss Transformation: The 90 Day Intensive for $500. That’s not even $6 a day. And don’t worry, we never meet in person. It’s all over the phone!
Don’t decide yet. First, schedule your free Weight-Loss Resistance Breakthrough Session with me to uncover what’s been stopping you so far and make a plan for the future. In the Breakthrough Session you will:
*Uncover what’s been stopping you, slowing you down, or keeping you from having the body and health that you desire
*Develop a powerful vision for what an ideal healthy life looks like
*Discover what habits are keeping you from having a body that you love
*Get crystal clear on a step-by-step plan to successfully transform your body and mind in 90 days
And, if we decide this isn’t the right decision for you now, that’s totally okay too. I need to practice the conversation method and it’s still an awesome breakthrough for your health.
Make your appointment here: https://thewiserlife.setmore.com/
Do You Have a Refund Policy?
Absolutely not. Why? Because I can guarantee there will be parts of the coaching process that will make you want to run screaming away. Being uncomfortable is a huge sign of progress. I’m not going to just support you, I’m going to STRETCH you, remember? Having a refund policy only gives you an out. Not having a refund policy makes you commit to the process for every cent it’s worth.
If you finish the program and decide it was not a positive experience, you are welcome to write me a terrible review and I will post it on my testimonials web page. I say that because I am absolutely confident it will not happen.
Even if you don’t work with me, I urge you to set a goal and get a Health Coach in your life. Health not a concern now? Get a life coach (I’m training for that too…), a business coach, or a relationship coach, There are coaches for everything. Do your research, read testimonials and pick someone who fits your needs. It will be a life-changing experience and you will be able to reach goals you didn’t before think were possible.
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“Your attitude about food affects the way the food affects your body.”
I feel like the title of this blog post does not portray the gravity of those 10 lbs. They were the most stubborn 10 pounds in the history of my weight loss! they finally came off just as I was about to give up…again.
My Stubborn Weight Story
I don’t mind talking numbers so I’m just going to be straight with you. I was a comfortable 170 pounds before my first child. I gained 30 with pregnancy and I immediately lost 20 after birth. My next child was a very large baby (9lbs 10oz. Natural. I should get an award, right?). I gained about 40 pounds. I also lost about 20 with him after birth, and then managed to take off another 10. There was a big gap between my 2nd and 3rd child (7 years). I gained weight, I lost weight. But in the end, I gained weight.
My third child, born almost 6 months ago, was a girl and I gained about 25 pounds, which put me at 235. And oh boy was I excited to immediately lose that first 20 pounds like I did with the other two babies. However, that’s not what my now 30-year-old body exactly had in mind. Somehow this baby, the smallest of all three, did not require as much blood and tissue as the other two. Maybe that’s why she was the most painful to carry.
The day after I arrived home I stepped on the scale. You know what it said? 2-2-6. That’s right, folks. 2——2——6! Seriously?! 9 pounds? WTF? My child weighed 7lbs 6oz. Did I really eat the rest of that weight?
To my body’s defense, the next 6 pounds steadily fell off. But when I hit 220, probably 3 months ago, my body decided that’s where it wanted to be and that’s where it shall stay.
I, however, knew otherwise.
What Didn’t Work
I tried like hell after baby #3 to lose weight. Now, when I say, “like hell”, what I mean is I tried in my own way- ways that worked for me before my body’s metabolism shut down. I’m not a fan of exercise but I will incorporate walking and stretching or beginners yoga. I focus more on my diet. I really wanted to get back under 200 just for the simple fact my clothes would fit again. I restricted calories, I limited carbs, I ate clean, and I incorporated movement. But a week after every new tactic started, I weighed myself and observed no change. So, I felt sorry for myself and then I tried a new tactic the next week.
I didn’t know what I was going to do. These tactics always worked for me before. I knew I could always go hardcore with diet and exercise. I completely understand that food and exercise are a huge part of weight loss. If I maintained a strict, clean diet and went to the YMCA an hour every day, I would absolutely lose weight. But I also understand that I will not realistically maintain an intense diet and workout routine in my daily life for the rest of my life. It is so important for me to do something that I can consider a lifestyle change and not a temporary fix.
What I’m Learning
The most important information I’m learning in my health coaching courses is that health is not as simple as what you eat and how much you move. Health is your overall well-being. It’s how the physical, mental and spiritual parts of you connect to make a whole. One of them affects all of them. Your mental and spiritual health can, therefore, influence what is manifesting in you physically.
If I’m holding onto something physically (my weight), it’s possible that I’m holding onto something emotionally or spiritually. If I want to release the weight, I’ve got to find and release my emotional or spiritual burden.
What Finally Did Work
Once I realized that the parts of me you can’t see are affecting the parts me you can see, I decided to change the way I approached my weight loss. It’s no longer about hating the weight and punishing myself for not getting it off; it’s about exploring myself and focusing on the mental work of healthy living as well as the physical. It’s being mindful of my whole being. And it’s being mindful of how I feel about food and my body.
Here is a list things I do now, in addition to the diet changes and movements that work in my life.
1. I Think About It
I began with the mental/emotional work. I ask myself why I have this problem. For me, this meant journaling about my fears. For you, it could be as easy as just asking yourself a question and spending the week chewing on the answer.
Through a helpful journal exercise, I realized I may be subconsciously trying to keep my weight on. The pounds are protecting me from my fear of succeeding in something completely out of my realm (business ownership). By keeping the weight on, I get the great excuse that my future clients won’t take me seriously. Analyzing your thoughts helps you get in touch with the real obstacles you may have not even considered yet.
2. I Visualize the Negativity Leaving My Body
Visualization is a powerful tool that can help you move mountains in your life. Visualization is one of the things I do now when I’m not feeling well, or in this case, when there’s something about my body I’m wishing to improve…such as the ability to lose weight. Here’s how it works for me:
* First I relax and close my eyes.
* I Take a deep breath, in and out, and imagine an outline of my body in my mind.
* I visualize the negative energy or particles in my body that I want to be rid of. For me, it looks like my body is filled with tiny black dots. And for me, these dots either represent negative emotions, a sickness, or a system in my body that’s not working properly. Remember, your vision may look very different.
* I visualize the black dots leaving my body for good.
* I visualize a very bright light entering my body, reenergizing me, and replacing the negative energy or particles that were there before.
That’s it! I do this once or several times depending on how long I’ve had the problem. I honestly feel like it helps me to heal issues much faster. Visualization exercises help your mind to accept and believe in what you want to be true.
3. I Take Deep Breaths and Repeat Affirmations
Affirmations are specific phrases you repeat to yourself to help change your mindset and energy around a specific issue in your life. I will often do this in the shower while I’m washing my hair or at night before I fall asleep.
Since I’m struggling with weight loss I might take a deep breath and then say, My body is healthy, my body is clean, my body is light. To me, this represents the systems in my body working properly, making it easier for the weight to fall off, and easier for it to absorb nutrients. Repeating affirmations is your way of letting the Universe know what you want and the action you’re taking to get it.
4. I Am Grateful For and Have a Better Attitude Towards ALL My Food
This goes back to how our mental state affects our physical state. If we believe the food we are putting in our bodies is bad for us, then it will be. If we have a better attitude about the food we eat, are thankful for it, and believe it is nourishing us, it will be better for us.
I either make a mental note of how thankful I am for my meal or in some cases say it out loud with family. It doesn’t matter if you’re eating a Big Mac or a Grilled Chicken Spinach Salad. Your attitude about food affects the way the food affects your body.
I have a great new Journal for Wisdom Wednesday discussing this very topic.
5. I Don’t Look at the Scale (As Much)
This one is big and requires more paragraphs.
I don’t know about you, but I can get pretty caught up in that number on the scale. It was the only way I knew to measure my success. Sure, we all want to lose weight because we want to be smaller, and we want to be smaller because we think it will make us look better. But who the hell cares if you look better when you’re suffering from Type 2 Diabetes or Heart Disease? Looking better isn’t the REAL reason we want to lose weight. What we want is to stick around longer, travel after we retire, play ball with our kids, and not die of a completely preventable disease!
Once I realized this, I stopped making the scale a part of my routine. I stopped torturing myself with watching the numbers go up and down and letting the entire emotional fate of my week rest on that number. Weight isn’t the end goal. Health is the end goal. It’s time we learn to measure our health success in other ways. The number on the scale is just a perk. The pounds will inevitably fall off as long as you allow yourself to sink into your new healthy mindset, and stop focusing so hard on the negative ideas.
Yes, I did eventually look at the scale. I had to, to write this post. But I didn’t do it until my body felt better. I waited until my clothes were feeling lose, my appetite and cravings weren’t so strong, and I noticed a change in my reflection. I used the number on the scale as a point of reference, and not as a goal.
Mindfulness has turned into a huge concept for me and the way I view healthy living. Our belief systems play into EVERY aspect of our lives. Are you having trouble taking that next step in weight loss, or are you trying to set other health goals but always seem to fail? Spend a week focusing on being mindful of it. Try the exercises above and let me know how it plays out in your life.
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Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. These prompts are always written by me and inspired by my life. Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!
Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!
The Assignment: Understanding Your Relationship With Food
This week is about food. Don’t you love it already? No, I don’t have any double chocolate cookies to pass around but I do want you to better understand your relationship to those cookies and other food you eat…or maybe don’t eat. Why is this important? Because so many of us have issues with how we think about food. It doesn’t matter if your overweight, underweight, or “just right”, you probably have some unhealthy and unresolved issues with your meals.
First, imagine this:
Let’s pretend for dinner last night you were super busy so you just grabbed a burger on your way home. You also grabbed some fries and a Coke. If you hate this particular meal, imagine something equally “unhealthy” that you might eat.
Write down how you usually feel before, during, and after such a meal. Don’t hold back. Talk about all the thoughts and emotions that go into your mindset of being hungry, deciding what to eat, what you feel while you’re eating and then how you feel after your meal. My response might look like this:
I hate being hungry and I especially hate being hungry and running late. I don’t want to pick fast food but I often will if the evening is just too stressful to cook. I would love for there to be a healthier fast food option. I could go to Subway but it seems a little more expensive. I’m usually excited to eat the meal but I always notice that it smells better than it actually tastes and I end up disappointed. After, I usually feel really full and mad at myself for eating something so bad for me.
Now, imagine this:
Tonight you are more relaxed. You want to eat something healthier because you feel bad about your last dinner. You spend time preparing a salad with grilled chicken and a light dressing. Again, if you hate this meal, imagine something as equally “healthy” that you might eat if you had the time to prepare it.
Now do the same you did with the first meal and write a response about how you normally feel in this scenario. How do you feel when you’re hungry? What are your thoughts about deciding to eat a “healthier” meal? How do you feel while you’re eating it? How do you feel after? My response might look like this:
Again, I hate being hungry which will often cause me to buy something or make a quick meal. I usually feel good about deciding to eat healthier but feel frustrated trying to make food I don’t normally make, especially if the ingredients are different, and then I feel disappointed that it doesn’t leave me as full or satisfied. I feel light and good while I’m eating it. I’m usually not hungry when I’m done, but I’m also not 100% full which is what I am used to.
What is similar about your thoughts and emotions for each meal? What is different? Think about it or write it out.
For me, I noticed in all cases that I hate being hungry. It makes me feel angry and encourages me to make rash meal decisions. This probably means I’m not snacking enough to keep it from getting to that point. I also noticed that I have negative feelings towards both the “unhealthy” food and “healthy” food.
Why is it so important to understand your relationship with food. Because food is one of the BIGGEST parts of our health. It’s part of our survival, but it’s turned into entertainment and frustration. It’s not just about what you eat, it’s about how you eat, it’s about what you think about what you eat, it’s about how you feel about what you eat! I’ll talk about more in my next post, but your attitude about food affects the way the food affects your body. Healthy food is unhealthy if our attitude about it is negative. The same goes for junk food. Junk food is better for you if your attitude about it is positive.
I am not advocating eating a lot of junk food. I’m just saying having a positive attitude and grateful mindset about ALL the food you eat makes the food healthier for your body. Your mindset towards food is a huge part in healthy eating and it may be the part your missing if you’re feeling stuck now.
Every time you have a meal this week, notice your thoughts and feelings about the food. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after. What would you like to change about your current attitude about food? What is working for you at mealtime? What’s not?
Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. How did it make you feel? What did you uncover?
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