“New Year’s resolutions are dead.“
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The Assignment: Writing Your New Year’s Mission Statement
Can you believe it’s nearly the NEW YEAR? What have you done this year? What haven’t you done? Have you made a New Year’s Resolution this year? Well, don’t. New Year’s resolutions are dead. I like to refer to New Year’s resolutions as negative intentions. This year I’m going to ask that you to NOT punish yourself with some wishy-washy goal that you probably won’t accomplish because it was ill-planned and subconsciously focused on something you don’t really want in the first place. This year you’re going to do something different and better! You’re going to write a positive intention along with a mission statement, and powerful mantra to increase your chances of success!
How to Write the New Year’s Mission Statement
First, I want you to write the main positive intention you have for this coming year…the one that’s most important. Maybe you want to lose weight, improve your marriage, or go to school. Pick your MAIN goal.
Let me give you an example of a negative intention, or resolution, so you better understand what a positive one looks like.
“I’m going to lose weight” is a popular negative intention.
It’s an intention, or resolution, I’ve had probably every year until now, and it’s one I’ve failed every year. Why is this considered negative? Because it’s vague, it implies there’s something wrong with me, and there’s no power behind it. Don’t write your intention to look like this.
A positive intention, then, would be something specific, kind to you, and empowering! Let’s turn the negative intention above, into a positive one:
“I’m going to get healthier this year by taking a healthy cooking class, trying new kinds of movement, and working on my emotional relationship to food.”
This intention is so much better! It addresses the real goal (getting healthy as opposed to losing weight), and it implements three specific actions to help accomplish this goal. Also, it leaves little room for failure because the goal is simple: getting healthier.
Yes, this intention is so much better! But it still won’t help you all by itself. You’ve got to put a plan behind those positive words! How will you accomplish this goal? Who can help you? What will determine your success? All of these questions should be answered before you can set out to accomplish your intentions. That’s why I created these questions to help you create your New Year’s Mission Statement.
Once you’ve decided on your intention, and answered the above questions, you can put it all together in a Mission Statement and keep it in a place you can return to for inspiration later.
Answer these questions:
What is your main positive intention for the year?
This is what we discussed above. Something like, “I’m going to get healthier this year by taking a healthy cooking class, trying new kinds of movement, and working on my emotional relationship to food.”
How can you accomplish this intention?
This is asking, what is in your power to do, to make sure you are successful? You’re getting more specific.
For example, “I’m going to take a monthly healthy cooking class at the YMCA, I’m going to hire a personal trainer, and I’m going to read 5 books about improving my relationship to food.” (It would be even better if you could name the books, but this is still great).
Notice how I was more specific by stating when and where the cooking class would take place, and what I would do to implement more movement and research on relationships with food.
Where can I get support?
This means, who are some people you know will help and encourage you?
For example, “My spouse will check in with me weekly and discuss my progress along the way, and I can research healthy-living Facebook groups for support.”
When you use a specific person for support be sure to explain exactly what you need from them, otherwise it can harm your relationship. You don’t want a person to nag you or make you feel down when you didn’t do something you meant to do. The more people or areas of support you have, the better!
How can I measure my success?
How you do this is completely up to you. What determines to you, that you have been successful? Is it a number? Is it how you’re feeling? Is it lab tests from your doctor? Is it a completed program or task?
For example, “I will measure my success based on a blood pressure, cholesterol, and weight check at my doctor’s office at the beginning of the year compared to the end of the year.”
What is my mantra?
This goes at the end of your mission statement. It’s a powerful key phrase that’s short and easy to remember. It’s something you can repeat to yourself to help keep you on track. You want to keep your mission statement somewhere you can access and read it time and again but you probably won’t memorize it. Your mantra is your intention’s slogan. You may choose it based on a fear that’s been blocking you from your previous failed intentions.
For example, I have discovered I am afraid to lose weight because it protects me from something, so I chose my mantra to be, “Guts over fear.” Take some time to think of yours. Look at other mantras online for inspiration.
Put it Together and Say it Out Loud
Now, you want to put it all together into one cohesive statement, in the order of the questions above. It may feel awkward if you leave it worded as is, so feel free to revise it so that it looks better to you.
Example: I’m going to get healthier this year by taking a healthy cooking class, trying new kinds of movement, and working on my emotional relationship to food. I will accomplish this by taking a monthly healthy-cooking class at the YMCA, working with a personal trainer, and reading 5 books about improving my relationship with food. I can find support and encouragement from my spouse, who will discuss my progress along the way, and in a healthy-living Facebook group. I will measure my success based on my improvement of numbers from a blood pressure, cholesterol, and weight check at my doctor’s office at the beginning of the year compared to the end of the year. When I am having a hard day, or when I want to remind myself that I can do this, I will repeat the phrase, “Guts over fear.”
When it looks good, say it out loud 2 or 3 times just to sink it in. Save this statement somewhere you can access it when you need a reminder of your full intention. Also, repeat your mantra 2 or 3 times on its own so that you can memorize it and say it to yourself later.
Write or think about how you feel about your new mission statement. Do you feel like your intention this year is more specific and easily achievable? Is this better than setting a resolution like you may have done in the past? Do you feel more confident and ready to get started?
You might be thinking this is a lot of work to put into your New Year’s intention when before, all you had to do was think up a simple resolution. But I ask you, did you take that resolution seriously? Did you achieve it? If yes, then awesome! You probably don’t need this prompt. But if you’re like me and didn’t, and actually want to accomplish something you set out to do this year because you’ve failed most other years, then you have to put a little more mental work into the process of setting goals.
Don’t just write your mission statement and then forget all about it. Take this week to get plans in place for your success. If the above example was my new positive intention, then I would set up a doctor’s appointment, ask for recommendations on personal trainers, and be on the lookout for food-relationship books on Amazon.
Also, use this week to repeat your mantra several times so that you start to really believe it. Do it in the shower, before you go to sleep, while you’re driving to work, or when you’re waiting in line at Chipotle! Repeat it and repeat it again. Guts over fear. Guts over fear. Guts over fear. Guts over fear. Guts over fear.
Maybe even take a picture of yourself and edit it with your mantra!
Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. What’s your intention? How did it make you feel to write the statement? Do you have a plan in place? Like The Wiser Life on Facebook and Subscribe to our email list for notification of the next Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays! I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!
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