Thank you for continuing to read Journal for Wisdom Wednesdays!
Every week I will continue to post a journal prompt on Wednesday to help guide us towards our deeper wisdom. Don’t worry, I’m pretty new to all this spiritual and self-help hoo-haa too, so I’ll be doing the journal exercises right along with you. Even if you don’t love to write, I urge you to give it a try. If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done!
Intentional journaling is a fantastic way to discover your truest self. It’s also an amazing tool to help guide us towards a future full of possibility. It reminds us of what’s important and helps to destroy all the muck we bury ourselves under day in and day out. So give it a try to see what you can dig up!
The Assignment: Discover the Why Underneath Your Why!
This week we’re diving deep again. We’re going to practice a little exercise I learned in my health certification course. It’s called Discovering the Why Underneath Your Why.
What does that mean exactly? Well, it basically means uncovering your real reasons and motivations underneath all your superficial bullshit. It’s a fantastic way to answers your own questions and then really get down to the REAL answers.
Here’s what you do:
Step One: Ask yourself a question, and write it down. Be specific, rather than asking a broad question. It can be anything that’s burning you up right now. Why can’t I lose weight? Why am I not happy in my relationship? Why can’t I find the right person for me? Why can’t I commit to going back to school?
Example from my journal: Why can’t I lose weight?
Step Two: Turn your question into a want. Why you can’t lose weight is one thing…but what’s more important is discovering why this is something you want in the first place.
Example: Why do I want to lose weight?
Step Three: Answer your question. I know, the reason it’s a question is because you don’t know the answer. But go ahead and answer it anyway. Give it your best shot.
Example: I want to lose weight because I want to be healthier. I want to feel better. I want to look better.
Step Four: Explain why the answer to your question is so important to you. What’s so important about being healthier, feeling better, and looking better?
Example: If I was healthier, if felt better and looked better then I would be more confident and happy with myself.
Step Five: Explain why the answer to Step Four is so important to you. Why is it important for you be more confident and happy with yourself?
Example: Being confident and happy with myself will improve my ability to work with people and make me less afraid to start my own business.
**WHOA! Did you see what just happened here? I uncovered my fear. Why do I want to lose weight? Because I think it will improve my people skills and make me less AFRAID to start my own business.
Step Six: Repeat the process, if necessary (of answering why your previous answer is important to you), until you feel you’ve discovered your underlying fear.
Step Seven: Once you’ve discovered your fear…take it just one step further. Why is it important for you to improve your people skills and be less afraid of starting your own business?
Example: It’s important for me to improve my ability to work with people and start my own business because it means I will have the necessary skills to be my own boss and control my own financial future.
So there you have it. Through this process I have discovered I want to lose weight because I feel it’s keeping me from having control over my financial future. It has nothing to do with my first initial surface answer about being healthy and looking better. I have discovered the Why Underneath My Why. Deep shit, people.
Did this process work for you? If not, I’m happy to help so please comment or message me and I’ll help you figure out how to reframe it. If it did work for you, did your final answer surprise you? Did you have an ah-ha! moment?
Why is it so important to uncover your deepest Why? Because, friends, your deepest Why is your deepest truth. It’s your purest motivation. It’s the answer to what may be stopping you from finding the solutions to your own problems.
Now that I understand why I really want to lose weight, I can better understand my initial question of why I feel I can’t lose weight. I understand now that I fear being out of control and I must think subconsciously that my weight is a representation of that.
So it’s not that I can’t lose weight, it’s just that I don’t truly want to for the reasons I thought. Subconsciously speaking, losing weight suddenly equates being responsible for making more money!
I’ve obviously been putting way too much pressure on myself.
Write about how your deepest Why uncovered the truth of your truest motivation. What is your superficial reason vs. your deeper subconscious reasons? Are you subconscious beliefs unhealthy like mine? Now that you’ve discovered this, how can you use it to help you? What does it change about how you approach solving this problem?
Write me in the comments below and let me know how it went. How did it make you feel? What did you uncover?
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