“The most abundant lives are the lives full of gratitude.”
The number one complaint I usually have about my own children is how ungrateful they often act. My daughter can give a nasty stare when she’s not pleased to know we’re having Sloppy Joes again, and my son melts to the floor like slime when he’s asked to take 1 minute out of his day to put away his toys.
But honestly, how can they help it? Most children don’t see their parents practice gratitude on a daily basis. And it’s hard to be grateful when things are handed to you. How can our children understand what gratitude is or how to practice it, if we’re not practicing it as well? I can’t count the times I whine about my job or silently curse the laundry and dishes (okay, not always silently, sometimes very loudly).
We can’t just tell our children to be grateful, we’ve got to show them how. We have to teach them gratitude is more than saying thank you. The most abundant lives are the lives full of gratitude.
Here are some daily practices of grateful people!
1. Gratitude Journaling
Keep a gratitude journal to reflect simple thoughts of gratitude. This is a very easy task, even if you don’t like to journal. There are even special journals you can buy for this or you can just write in a notebook.
Every day, take 1-2 minutes to write what you’re grateful for. It can be as simple as the weather, or as deep as spending time with a loved one. If you do this every day and strive to write something new each day, you will begin to see how much you really have to be grateful for. It’s a great idea to have the kids do this as well. Dot it together!
If you’re not so fond of writing down your thoughts of gratitude, practice out loud. In my house, at dinner time, everyone states 2 good things that happened during their day. It’s important to give ourselves daily reminders of what we’re grateful for.
2. Choosing Not to Compare
Social media is the worst when it comes to comparing ourselves to others. I’ve seen countless photos and read hundreds of status updates that make my stomach sink and my brain say, I wish I could go to Disney World. I wish I could afford a new house. I wish my kids behaved that well. I wish my job was that awesome. I wish… I wish… I wish…
Keep in mind, for the most part, people only post the good stuff. With the exception of a few extremely honest friends, people usually don’t keep Facebook updated on their divorce, or post an Instagram picture of their failed exam, or Tweet about pills they’re addicted to, or Pin pictures of the ugly cake they just decorated.
Nope. We usually wallow in sorrow, alone.
Your life is uniquely yours. Stop obsessing over how everyone else seems to be doing so awesome and focus on what’s good in your life.
You can use social media to do this as well. How often do you go to your own Facebook wall or Instagram page to scroll down through all the awesomeness that you’ve shared with your friends? Take a minute to notice why others might be jealous of in your life, and be grateful for it. You can even turn it into a book!
3. Being Present in the Moment
I’m totally guilty of not doing this. I might be looking at my phone, and trying to make plans for the weekend when I faintly hear the sound of my son’s voice. It’s not that he’s talking quietly, it’s that his voice is muffled by my own thoughts.
It’s like an episode from Family Guy. Then I half listen to what he has to say and shoo him away.
Being present in the moment is difficult. We’re often reviewing in our heads what happened yesterday, and going over what needs to be done tomorrow.
Make a conscious effort to slow your mind and notice your present surroundings. Put down your phone and be where you are. Is what you’re doing valuable? Who needs you right now? How can you make the present moment more loving, more kind, more fun?
If you’re at work, then work without thinking about what needs to be done at home. If you’re at home, be present for your family and stop worrying about work. If you scheduled time for yourself, don’t bother yourself with guilt, but be fully present in enjoying your me time. Use your time as you intended it. Worrying about what needs to be done in your next slot of scheduled time only harms your present focus.
Be grateful for the now and take advantage of it’s intended purpose.
4. Being Mindful of Your Internal Language
This practice can be tough because you have to catch yourself in the act. Think about all the times during the day when your mindset turns negative. Maybe it’s when you get up for work, but you don’t want to go. Maybe it’s when the cat pukes on the carpet, and now you have to clean it up.
As these things occur throughout your day, remember to stop and notice your thoughts and then consciously make a new, positive one.
After you think, I’m too tired. I don’t want to go to work! Replace it with, I’m grateful I have a job because it allows me to do fun things with my family on the weekend!
After your thought of, I’m sick and tired of the stupid cat puking on the carpet! Replace it with, I’m grateful for my cat because she gives me love and cuddles with me at night.
There must be a good reason for your job, and a good reason for your cat. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have them. Remember the good reasons and be grateful for having them.
5. Saying Thank You to the Good and the Bad
This was the toughest practice for me until I heard Tony Robinson say something like, If you’re going to be grateful for all the good parts, then you better be grateful for all the shit, too. Why? Because it’s responsible for who we are.
Are you proud of who you are? Then you need to say thank you for all the bad stuff too because it MADE you. Be thankful that your parent was an alcoholic or drug addict. Be grateful you were in a terrible car accident. Say thank you to that asshole who stole your credit cards. These people and events may have devastated you at the time, but they are a piece of your unique puzzle. If they weren’t part of your life, you wouldn’t have quite the perspective that you do. You would be a different You. You may even be a softer, less badass you.
The next time something seemingly negative occurs in your life, try to stretch yourself into thinking how it makes you better. And, when enough time has passed, say thanks and be grateful for it.
Once we’ve mastered these daily practices of gratitude our mindset begins to shift into a new, more positive perspective. Since our actions often reflect our thoughts, not only will we feel more grateful, we’ll start to act more grateful.
Our kids pick up on our attitudes about life whether we want them to or not. If we practice gratitude, eventually our kids will be grateful too.
“Stop giving a shit about the opinions of people who are afraid to grow… and no matter what happens, stay on course. Their opinions can only affect you if you let them.”
I’m so excited because this week I reached 1k Total Social Follows! Check out my sidebar to see for yourself. I know, it’s not much, but to me, it’s everything! To me, it means it’s possible to reach 100k and beyond! Which means it’s possible to spread my message to thousands of people like you who have a deep desire for something better than what you currently know to be true.
To celebrate, I wrote a post that I hope will get you jumpstarted into living your life on purpose, setting big goals, and celebrating every tiny achievement that gets you to the big one!
From my own experience, here’s what you need to STOP doing if you want to be successful:
1. Stop Letting Fear Win
Stop letting fear win. Notice I didn’t say, stop being afraid. You can’t help but to be afraid of taking risks. Taking risks means going into the unknown, and it’s only natural to feel fear. However, risk-taking is the only way to be rewarded. If you want what you’ve always had, keep doing what you’re doing. If you want something different and better, you best grow some bigger melons girl, and get to doing something different and better!
Being brave doesn’t mean you’re not scared. It means you are scared and you do it anyway.
It makes me cringe to write this, which is exactly why I’m forcing myself to do it, but I recently took pretty big financial risks to fund my business by hiring a business coach. Even though I have enough faith and wisdom to know the dream is going to happen, it hasn’t happened yet, and telling you about it now means I will have to face you later with results. But I don’t let fear call the shots anymore.
2. Stop All the Negative Self Talk
Have you heard that new song by Kesha? Hymn? Well, the best lyric is, “Here’s to knowing you’re perfect even if you’re f**ked-up!”
Yeah, you’ve got issues. I relate. And I know it’s so hard to stop believing in your own incompetency when you’ve proved to yourself over and over how easy it is to fail, or when you see others fail, or when there is so much to be afraid of. But you’ve got to start believing in yourself. Love yourself in your thoughts, your words, and your actions. It’s the secret to life! Seriously…I wrote about it. I also made a Pinterest board about it!
The last few months I’ve made a conscious effort to reflect on and correct my negative thoughts or words. If I look in the mirror and think, man I’m a fatass…I catch myself and immediately and correct it to, No, I am beautiful. If I say out loud, I’m so stupid! I catch myself and correct it to, No I’m really smart!
No, you won’t immediately believe it, but if you commit to doing this over and over you will eventually condition your brain to stop being such a wimp. You are smart, you are beautiful, you are powerful, and you can have what you desire. But you’ve got to do the work if you don’t already believe it!
What you say, do, and think will be the truth of your circumstances. It always is.
3. Stop Apologizing
Don’t apologize or feel guilty for having a better lifestyle than the one you grew up in, or having a more positive attitude, or for making a difference, or for being successful, or having a bigger house, or getting an education, or just having a better life in general.
This is something I have struggled with. I grew up poor and now I’m middle class. A lot of my family still lives a poor lifestyle and even though I’ve never, ever bragged about my situation (because there’s absolutely nothing to brag about, I got problems and bills too) I get treated differently and sometimes put down verbally. People suddenly think of you as a different person when you’re able to finish college, pay your bills, and afford a house in a suburb. Oh, suddenly you’re too good for us, huh?
Don’t let others make you feel bad about your positive choices. But don’t waste time being angry with them either. It’s nothing personal. They just feel like you can’t relate to them anymore. They don’t believe you have to struggle as hard as they do, and they are responding in fear because suddenly they are forced to face the realization that maybe they can do it too.
4. Stop Listening to Negative Nancy
“Who do you think you are? You’ll never get that far. That costs too much money. You don’t have enough time. Don’t dream soooo big. You’re too old. You’re too young. Why would you give up your secure job? You are being selfish. You’re crazy”
Chances are you’ve heard these sentences from the mouths of others. Because any time you get the guts to pursue a goal, you are met with all the resistance in the world. It’s not a sign that you should stop. Its just people who are really uncomfortable with people like you, who want to grow.
The moment you decide to go after your truth, shit will hit the fan. People will watch to see if you fall apart, and if you do… they are eager to say, I told you so.
You’re going to make mistakes. It will happen. Expect it. But failure only happens when you quit. Stop giving a shit about the opinions of people who are afraid to grow… and no matter what happens, stay on course. Their opinions can only affect you if you let them.
Would you take it to heart if a Kindergartner said you were dumb? Hopefully, you would just laugh it off and say something kind in return because you know what they said isn’t true, and you want to set a better example. That’s how you have to approach these people. Smile and nod if you have to, but don’t let their words instill fear or take away your powerful beliefs.
5. Stop Waiting
You will never be confident enough, thin enough, bold enough, rich enough, prepared enough, or perfect enough if you keep waiting. Give up your perfectionism. Stop waiting around for just the right moment to spring on you.
Dive head-first into the dark water and be ready to fight whatever ugly, giant fish swims your way. Usually, the fish turns out to not be as ugly or as giant as you imagined in the first place.
How many people have to die before you accept that you’re going to die too? Don’t waste more time waiting for something that might never come. Most waiting is just an excuse not to start.
I am still unsatisfied with my website, my inconsistent social media posting strategy, my current weight, my lack of finances, and a lot of other things. But I just keep on keeping on because it will never be perfect and I know I can learn as I go.
6. Stop Putting Yourself Last
This one should really be first on the list but I put it last because I want it to resonate with you the most.
Yeah, you’ve got a partner, kids, or other family and friends who all have needs that maybe you are responsible for meeting.
First, let’s make sure you actually are responsible for those needs. Yes, your kids need to feel loved, your partner needs communication, and maybe your family or friends need a certain level of support with certain things. But no, you are not responsible for anyone’s happiness, their satisfaction of life, entertainment, or feeling of self-worth (there are obviously some exceptions with children).
Remember that everyone in the house should share responsibility. Do you really need to fold everyone’s laundry or make everyone’s bed or wash everyone’s dishes?
And, always make time for yourself. Take a bath, read a book, go out with friends, cook meals you like, order food you want to try instead of always giving in to what your partner or kids want, make time for yoga- or whatever it is that floats your happy boat. And don’t just fit it in when you can, schedule it in. Make it a priority. Personally, my husband and I have worked out a schedule where every evening (that something is not planned) he get’s 1.5 hours and then I get 1.5 hours to do whatever the hell we want. We make an exception 1 night of the week to spend time with the kids together, and we still have lots of time on the weekends.
When it comes to friends and family, you’ve got to stop enabling them. If they are too negative, sucking up all your good energy and using your amazing listening skills to dump their crap all over you, you’ve got to put an end to that crap immediately. It does affect you and it’s killing your mojo. Be brave enough to explain you’re in a positive space now, or begin to distance yourself from them. Mamma ain’t got time for that!
If you learn nothing else, please understand that putting yourself first IS NOT SELFISH. It’s the best thing you can do for your family because it’s making you feel good and helping you be at your best. When you are at your best… you can be the best when you’re with them.
You can take my advice with a grain of salt. I consider myself a successful person. But where I came from, a world full of poverty, addiction, and abuse, my mindset about life is a monumental achievement.
I am beautiful inside and out. I deserve to be loved by myself and others. My time is extremely valuable. Money is a tool that I want and deserve. I am successful. I can do anything I set out to do.
And guess what? All of this is true for you too! It already exists for you. And as soon as you believe it, the Universe will help you see it.
I’d love to hear about how you had to change your mindset for success! Comment below to interact with me! Don’t forget to share with your friends!
“You are the only You there is, and your creator is not happy that you don’t treat yourself better because he/she/it lovingly created every last cell of your body with meaning and a deep sense of purpose.”
You’ve been searching for it all along, but still can’t find it. It keeps evading you with every life decision, wrong or right. It must be something profound, something only wise, old-folks figure out just before they take their last breath. You can’t seem to find it by searching on Google, and it’s not in your fortune cookie. It’s not hiding in your grandma’s old journals or in that amazing novel you just finished. It’s not hiding somewhere in parenthood, money, acts of charity, or your passion-filled career. Many have figured out it’s not even religion.
I Know The Secret to Life
So, what is the secret to living a happy, successful, peaceful life?
I know the secret to life and I’m not going to make you read much further before I tell you. But I have to warn you first. You’re not going to like what you read. You will be annoyed. You will accuse me of being too simple and hate me for leading you on.
You’re going to say, “That’s not profound at all.”
You’ll dismiss it, but I’m going to risk all of that and tell you anyway.
But first I’m going to make a prediction: I predict one day, when you finally get your shitty life together, when you finally feel the joy and peace you’ve been seeking all these years, when you’ve finally found the strength to give up your addictions or leave your leach of a partner and make room for your true self, you’ll think back to this article. You’ll remember my words and and you’ll say, “She was exactly right.”
Are you ready for it? The secret to life, folks, is to love yourself.
That’s right. The secret to life, the most important thing you can ever truly learn, is to LOVE YOURSELF. Love yourself in your thoughts, love yourself in your actions, and love yourself in your words.
You don’t have to love God, or create beautiful art, or forgive your family, or anything else. All of those things add true value to your life. But they are not what’s going to fill the hole in your soul. You can do anything I said above, but if you don’t love yourself, you’ve got nothing. You will always feel like something is missing and will tear yourself apart trying to find the right piece.
Loving yourself will unlock the door to the Universe and the power in your soul.
Negative feelings about life tend to fall into one of these categories: love, money, health, and life-purpose. Read below and decide which category affects you the most.
I Need Love
You’re not happy in your relationship or you’re not happy being alone. Maybe you don’t think you can do any better. Maybe you’re not in a relationship at all and long for your soul-mate. Maybe you’ve settled for a person who is not right for you. Maybe the person you love doesn’t love you. You constantly wish for that special someone to make it all better.
I Need Money
You don’t have any or you don’t have enough. You’re constantly thinking, I could DO this, or I could BE that, or I could HAVE this…if I had money.
I Need Better Health
You’re sick, overweight, underweight, or addicted to drugs or alcohol. You’re depressed. You don’t like what you see in the mirror or you wake up every day with a physical or mental affliction and you resent it. It isn’t who you are or who you want to be. You feel helpless. If you could look a certain way, kick your addiction, or miraculously wake up tomorrow cured, then everything would change.
I Need to Find My Life’s Purpose
You’re not satisfied with your job or the role you play in life. Your career isn’t fulfilling. Your role as a parent is not what you thought or feels overwhelming. You can’t figure out what you were put on this stupid planet to do. You’ve made too many mistakes so far and you’re too scared to try again. Time is running out. You feel like you’re wasting life and the clock is ticking.
Does this sound familiar? We all spend life trying to mend these categories. We fill up our time torturing ourselves about these areas of our lives and spend enormous amounts of energy fretting over them but never really taking big enough steps to help them.
The Missing Piece
So, what is the missing piece?
YOU! YOU are the missing piece. You are the only You there is, and your creator is not happy that you don’t treat yourself better because he/she/it lovingly created every cell of your body with meaning and a deep sense of purpose.
You have to LOVE yourself as the universe loves you. You have to be in a relationship with, and actively seeking to love and evolve your truest SELF.
Loving yourself will attract the right people and more money because you will no longer be accepting of people or jobs that are below your standard of worth. Loving yourself will heal you because you’ll no longer want to damage your body or waste more time than necessary being sad or angry about life. Loving yourself will propel you faster towards your life’s purpose because you will no longer burden yourself with such immense pressure to discover it, and you will eventually understand that every life experience you participate in is not a mistake, but a stepping stone on a journey to your inevitable destination.
Love yourself. And you will never be alone.
I’m looking for guest posts that elaborate on the connection between a healthy body and spirituality!
The Healthy Body and Spirit Connection
It started out as a simple request, but ended up drawing in a lot of interest!
In my spiritual journey, I’ve become really interested in the connection between a healthy body and spirituality. Is there a connection? Is a positive attitude really healthier? Can you heal yourself through spiritual means? What experiences and advice do others have to give on this topic?
I simply wanted a guest blogger to write a post about this topic and help to enlighten me and my readers. But as it turns out, many people are interested in writing on the subject! And there’s no reason not to accept all they have to offer!
So I’ve decided to turn this topic into a weekly blog series! Hopefully, starting next week, I’ll be posting one post from a guest writer about some aspect of the complex nature between spirituality and health.
The length of the series depends on the number of submissions.
How to Submit
Do you have something to offer this discussion? An experience? Or, advice?
I’d love to hear about whatever floats your spiritual, healthy body boat. There are no formal guidelines. Write whatever speaks to you. As long as it’s not completely against what I stand for, I’ll make it a part of the series and promote you on my site and social media pages during the week I publish your post.
Send your submission to thewiserlifeblog @ gmail .com and I’ll let you know what week you’ll be published!
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“Loving yourself is the healthiest thing you can ever do.”
If you’re goal this year is to lose weight, chances are, it was your goal last year too. Am I right? But you probably didn’t lose it, or not enough of it, or you gained it all back. Right again? You keep falling off the stupid wagon! But why?
I’ve figured out exactly what’s been keeping the weight on for me and I want to share with you what we can do beyond eating better and exercising to get it off and keep it off.
Here’s the problem:
1. You’re Not Doing it for the Real Reasons
You need to get CLEAR on why you want to lose weight. Why do you really want to accomplish this? You may think you know, but do you really?
I’ve talked about this before (finding the why underneath your why) in my journal posts, but I want to really express the importance of finding your big MOFA. What’s a MOFA? It’s your Motivating Factors! It’s the deepest reason(s) you want to do something. Read my post to find out how to discover your deepest reasons.
I want to wear a bikini to the beach, might be your surface reason. But, I want to gain the most confidence to start my business, might be your deepest truth, or your big MOFA. Sometimes we don’t even know why we really want something until we do the above journaling exercise.
If you’re continuously seeking to accomplish a goal for superficial reasons, you may achieve that goal for a short time, but you will eventually sabotage yourself and end up where you started. I know this because I’ve done it over and over. Understanding your deepest reason(s) why will connect you to your truest self and help you to predict and prevent behavior patterns.
2. You’re Trying to Create Habits You Have No Interest in Maintaining
I’ve started so many diets by setting goals that are unrealistic for my long-term situation or that don’t really align with what I enjoy doing or who I enjoy being. I’m not going to eat a salad daily because I don’t love salads. I’m not going to work out at the gym for an hour 5 days a week because I don’t love going to the gym.
Don’t make yourself do anything you don’t love the idea of doing. I know this sounds a little crazy but stick with me.
Movement doesn’t have to mean running at the gym, lifting weights, or going to yoga three times per week. Find movement you enjoy and fit it into your schedule in a natural way. What about swimming, walking, stretching, exercising with your baby, playing basketball with your teenage son, or doing an exercise video with your husband? Find something you like to do and then fit it into your weekly schedule in a way that is not overwhelming. You can even do it with people you love if you need to feel like you’re not taking time away from them.
And eating shouldn’t be so restrictive. Maybe you don’t like salad but you do love to try new things. You could make it a goal to try a new healthy dish at a restaurant once per week. Or, maybe make one new recipe per week at home. Or, look for healthy recipes on Pinterest and make them with the kids one night a week. Mix it up and allow yourself time to learn and discover what you like.
This is not an all or nothing situation. Being healthy is always a journey and never a destination. Take it slow. When you find things you like…then you know it’s something you will always want to do and you can begin to replace your old habits with healthy ones. Celebrate that you made the decision to be healthy and take it day by day.
3. You’re Looking for a Quick Fix
Maybe you’re getting married soon, going on vacation, or getting ready for an event and you need to lose the weight yesterday. You’ve tried every magic pill and shake under the sun. Sometimes you lost the weight, but gain it back. You want to hurry up and get it done so you work hard…but then you burn out. What gives?
This is similar to what I talked about for number 2. You must realize that habit change doesn’t happen over night. You can force yourself to lose the weight and do it fairly quickly but it will come back and you’re not actually doing it in a healthy way. Health is more than eating right and exercising. It’s a shift in your thinking patterns and lifestyle choices. This shift can only happen over time with lots of practice!
Quick fixes might work quick, but their results will also go away quickly. Practice makes perfect.
4. You’re Eating in Guilt and Shame
A doughnut you eat in gratitude and pleasure is always better for your body than a doughnut you ate in guilt and shame.
If you love Oreos, eat Oreos. If you love fries, eat fries. Don’t deprive yourself of these sweets or treats some of the time if you love them. But, do it in love and appreciation for yourself and the food that is entering your body. Understand that it’s purpose may not be to nourish your body, but to give you pleasure and fulfillment in the moment. Be grateful for what it is. But do not hate it or yourself for eating it.
If you do this, you will begin training your brain to be grateful for this food, and train your body to accept it as nourishment.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying eating fries and Oreos will do the same for you as carrots and broccoli, but I am saying there is a spiritual aspect to it. Be grateful for it instead of ashamed of it and you’re winning half the battle.
5. You’re Measuring Your Success with the Wrong Tools
Please, please, please…stop checking the scale. If you must check it, do it only once per week but do not use it to measure your success. If you lost 5lbs this week, you may feel extremely excited. But if you lost that 5lbs because you skipped meals and were feeling stressed, it was not really a successful week. That 5 lbs will probably come right back.
How else can you measure your success? You might notice… my skin is clearer, my pants are looser, my attitude is better. You may begin to notice you’re not craving soda, or have gone a long time without eating fast food. Maybe you’re starting get compliments from family and friends. Look for any other positive affirmations to help you remember that your health is not measured by the number on your scale. The scale is not even an accurate measure of your hard work.
If you had a positive healthy week and lost weight, then the number on the scale is just perk! But it is not a measure of your worth or work effort.
Celebrate all the other signs that you’re headed in the right direction. The most important validation is how you feel about your personal health journey.
If you’re serious about losing weight, I can help. But I only take serious clients!
Read more about mindful eating here.
And here are some easy healthy living tips to get you started!
I would love to see your comments about this issue! What has worked for you to keep the weight off or to help keep you on the right path to health?
“There’s nothing wrong with wanting more money and believing that you deserve it, because it’s the best way to make positive changes in your life, therefore leaving you freer to make positive changes in the lives of others.”
Money: We Love You, But We Hate You
Most of us have a love-hate relationship with money. We love to have money, but when we lack, we love to say things like, “Money’s the root of all evil.” We also love to talk about how we’re glad we’re not rich because we don’t want to spoil our children.
And when people do dirty, greedy acts because they were motivated by money, we blame the money instead of people.
We also love to pretend like we don’t really need or want a large sum of money. We roll our eyes at fancy houses, mock people who go through college on trust funds, and have negative conversations about people who go on way too many vacations throughout the year.
“Must be nice. Wish I could afford to visit the Bahamas for the 2nd time this year! What do they do for a living anyway? Raise people from the dead?”
It’s Time to Get Over Your Limited Beliefs About Money
We act this way mostly because we’re too afraid we will never receive enough money, so we don’t bother being happy for anyone else who has it. If we did receive it, we wouldn’t feel like we deserved it anyway and would feel insecure about how to best use it.
The truth is, money isn’t evil (people use it to do terrible things). Money doesn’t spoil children (we do). Money doesn’t corrupt minds (people are already corrupt).
Money is actually an amazing tool that has helped numerous people achieve wonderful things in this world. Hating money is like hating the hammer I used to accidentally smash my finger. It’s a tool and it’s not responsible for how dumb I am.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting more money and believing that you deserve it, because it’s the best way to make positive changes in your life, therefore leaving you freer to make positive changes in the lives of others.
It’s important that we practice gratitude for money and start to believe that we are capable of attracting more of it.
Here are three steps you can take to attract more money into your life:
1. CORRECT Your Negative Thoughts About Money
Most of us have this mean little voice in our head that tells us we can’t have more money or we don’t deserve more of it. These thoughts might sound like this:
I never have enough money at the end of my paycheck.
I’ll never be able to find a job that makes more than I do now.
I want to start my own business and make more money but I’m not smart enough.
Recently, I’ve realized that the power of thought is a completely wonderful and underrated superpower that most humans don’t bother to use to their advantage. My favorite quote of all time is from Henry Ford, “Whether you believe you can or you believe you can’t, you are probably right.”
If you constantly think thoughts like the ones above, then they will be true, because what you believe is the TRUTH. Successful people are successful, not because they don’t have those thoughts, but because they tell those voices to SHUT THE HELL UP, and then consciously replace them with new, positive, and truthful thoughts.
Take the first thought for example: I never have enough money at the end of my paycheck.
Okay, is that REALLY true? You NEVER have enough money for things you need or want? EVER?
Well, I’m usually able to pay my bills and have a little leftover for things I like to do, like have dinner with friends.
If the word NEVER is not the truth then stop saying it to yourself and correct the thought with something positive like this: I’m grateful for the money I made this month that helps me to pay bills and go out to dinner a few times with friends. I know more money is coming next month.
Changing your thoughts to reflect the actual truth of your circumstances is important because believing in a non-truth will turn that non-truth into the truth of your reality.
Did you catch that? Basically, your thoughts will be the truth.
A strong combination of positive thought and personal action will take you further in life than you ever believed you could go before. Which brings me to my next point…
2. Take ACTION on Your Financial Desires
Even if your thought is true, in order for anything to change, you’ve got to DO SOMETHING to change it. So many of us complain about our circumstances without ever taking action. Don’t say, There’s nothing I can do about it, because that’s absolutely not true, ever.
The universe will help you out, but you have to meet it halfway. If you told your intelligent, but lazy teenage son you would reward him with $20 if his report card showed A’s or B’s but he came home with C’s and D’s, would you give him the $20? I hope not.
The Universe works in the same way. We absolutely will not be rewarded in life by negative thinking and lack of doing.
Consider what you’re willing to do to change your current truth to get some more cash. If you don’t have enough money in your paycheck, then consider ways to make additional money on the side or move up in your company. Talk to your boss, look at ads on Craigslist, or research work you can do from home.
If you think a better job is the answer, then your ass better be out looking for that job. You should be researching what you want to do, combing Indeed and Monster for leads, ramping up your resume, building references and asking for letters of recommendation. (Feeling lost on your purpose? Read this post.)
If you’ve decided you’re finally ready to work through your fear of starting a new business, you might need to read books about how to get started, talk to the bank about business loans, and begin designing your logo. Your attention should be laser-focused, and hell-bent on moving up the financial ladder through whatever means you decide is joyful and necessary.
The point is, DO SOMETHING. Show the universe you’re trying. Don’t get caught up in whether or not it’s the right move because any movement is better than no move and will lead you somewhere as opposed to nowhere.
Stop deciding that it can’t be done. Stop deciding to do something later. Do something now, keep doing it until your circumstances change.
3. BELIEVE in Your New Financial Truth
Being conscious of your thoughts and taking action on them is probably easier than the next thing I’m going to ask you to do.
Now, you have to BELIEVE these efforts are going to work in unison with the universe to change your reality. You have to TRUST in the powers that be. You have to keep FAITH that the universe wants you to succeed and will eventually deliver what you’ve been asking for in your thoughts, your words, and your actions.
You’ve identified and corrected your negative thoughts. You’re taking action to show the universe you mean business. Now you have to BELIEVE you’re going to get there. You have to KNOW it’s going to happen. You’ve got be UNWILLING to accept any other outcome. There is no other option. You ARE going to start a business, or move up in your current job, or get a new job. Or you ARE going to discover your new life’s journey. And you ARE going to make the money you set out to make. You DESERVE it.
Have you ever noticed how easily things get done when it just makes sense to you that it’s going to get done? Up to this point you’ve been out there doing what everyone else does. You finished high school, maybe even college. You got a job. You got married. You had children. You finished a project at work. You lost weight.
You completed these tasks because you always knew that’s just how it had to be. Quitting high school or flunking out of college was not an option. You got a job because you had to pay bills. You finished a project at work because you didn’t want to get fired. You lost weight because you knew you had to stop feeling so freaking fat.
You were determined, you believed, and you got it done. There was no plan B. Plan B. did not exist.
Why is this task any different? Just because a task seems bigger, doesn’t mean it can’t be done with the same frame of mind. Set a goal. Take action. Believe that it’s going to be accomplished.
Your will, will be done.
My Money Manifesting Story
(Updated 1/24/2018) Recently I have gotten over A LOT of my limiting beliefs about money. And what happened? I manifested enough money to pay for a very expensive business coach to help me launch my business. Before that, I manifested enough to take a coaching certification course.
Manifesting does not mean $5000 just dropped out of the sky. Manifesting means that suddenly my mind opened wide enough to consider financial options I had never, ever considered before. Manifesting means you get clear about EXACTLY what you want. You believe and are grateful that the money is coming. You explore your options. You take action. You surrender to the Universal powers that be, and you are certain it’s coming your way. You are open to all the possible Hows and all the possible Whens.
Actually, you are also open to all the Hows and Whens that seem Impossible. I mean, who knows? Maybe $5000 will fly down from the sky and into your lap. Stranger things have happened.
To manifest the money for my coach I did all of the above. I also said my money affirmation a few times per day: “I am wealthy. Money comes to me easily and naturally.”
My goal is to quit my $1,000 month per year, part-time job once I’m able to replace it comfortably with $2,000 per month by this Summer. After that, I plan to grow it to $10,000 per month by the end of this year. And after that, I plan to make enough that my husband can quit his physically demanding job with the railroad to help with my business and do something he loves… like flipping houses or wood-working.
It absolutely does not bother me to share this with you. Okay, that was a lie. I felt a tiny twinge of…OMG WHAT IF I FAIL. It bothers me a little. But even when I feel doubt, as humans often do, I feel a stronger sense of faith that I will manifest exactly the life I desire and participate in creating.
I plan to update this post every time my money manifesting powers shine through, so stay tuned.
Bonus Tip: Money Masters
To continue your quest for more money, the best thing you can do is read, read, and read some more on the topic. This is done so you can expand your “wealth consciousness”, as they call it. You can do this as a way to show the Universe you’re serious, and it helps to replace your negative thoughts on money with positive ones. Most of what I shared with you here today, was inspired by Jen Sincero’s books, “You are a Badass,” and “You are a Badass at Making Money.”
She didn’t start getting her life figured out until her 40’s, and now she’s attracting all kinds of awesome badassyness into her world. I am not being paid to say this. I just want you to have a breakthrough after reading her books like I did.
Read these books and others like them to build positive energy around your new idea of money. Pretty soon, if you take it seriously, you’ll be raking it in.
I would LOVE to read your comments on this topic! Plus, don’t forget to check out my Money board on Pinterest!
“Simple lifestyle changes can transform your health and therefore improve every other area of your life.”
If you’re anything like I was, you’re probably addicted to carbs and/or sugar, and you’re not exactly fond of exercise. Actually, you’d rather complete high school all over again, than run for thirty minutes a day or switch to a clean-eating diet. I can’t tell you how many times I faked cramps to get out of PE (male gym teachers are so uncomfortable with the thought of menstrual cycles; works like a charm every time). This is something I most definitely need to analyze if I want to be a health coach (and part of the reason I was so insecure about pursuing it anyway).
But what I think most of us fail to realize is how simple and easy it is to be a basically healthy person. You don’t have to run if that’s not your thing, and you don’t have to limit yourself to eating only broccoli and lean meat. You just have to develop basic, healthy habits. If your health goal is simply to develop habits that will allow you live a longer life, not be a bodybuilder, then you simply need to focus on habits that will be easy to maintain for your lifestyle.
Simple lifestyle changes can transform your health and therefore improve every other area of your life.
Here are 8 easy ways to get healthy now.
1. Drink Water and Only Water
I know. I heard your sigh loud and clear through my computer screen. You’re thinking you can’t possibly drink as much water as you’re supposed to, or drink only water because that’s so boring!
That is always my problem. How can I drink the recommended 80oz of water a day?! But try to think of how many ounces of other liquids you drink all day (soda, juice, tea, coffee). If you counted your intake of those liquids I would bet it comes close to, or over the recommended water amount.
Your body needs a liquid that is not filled with caffeine and sugar, to help it function at its maximum level. If you have a hard time giving up caffeine and sugar in your drinks it’s okay to start small. Start by replacing one drink a day. If you normally would order a Coke when you go out to eat, order water with lemon instead. If you normally start with 3 cups of coffee in the morning, try 2 instead and replace the third with water. Infuse your water with fruits and vegetables, or try flavored water mixers like Mio.
If you have Will, you will find a way. Give yourself a break and ease into it, all the while believing you’re going to accomplish it.
2. Exercise for 10 Minutes a Day
You hate exercise, right? Or maybe you don’t hate it, maybe you just don’t have time for it. Not everyone can dedicate 30 minutes to 1 hour to exercise every day. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be 30 minutes, or even 20. All you need is 10 minutes a day to make a healthy difference in your life. It’s literally the least we can do.
Even if you hate it, (lord help me, I hate it) 10 minutes is almost nothing. If you really don’t have 10 minutes, then wake up 10 minutes early or go to bed 10 minutes later. While I was in the Weight Watchers program I learned that even 10 minutes of activity a day, every day, can drastically improve your health.
I would also like to mention here that you really shouldn’t take time out of life to do things you hate.
Find an exercise you like, or that you can at least tolerate because it’s not so miserable. Walk in place, lift your knees, do jumping jacks, walk up and down the stairs, or lift arm weights. We all have 10 minutes to spare, and if we don’t, we need to stop and examine what’s important.
I’ve started doing this recently and it’s made me feel stronger and more clear-headed throughout the day. The beautiful part about setting such a small goal is that once you realize how easy it is for you to accomplish, you may even decide to add more time as you go. When your body feels good, your soul will follow.
3. Stretch Your Body
If you really, really don’t want to do the exercise thing, I challenge you to at least spend a few minutes stretching your body. Or, if you’re super awesome, do both
Stretching is an easy and healthy way to release all the bent up stress that builds up in your muscles and joints. I kind of love just getting on the floor and pretending like I know all these awesome Yoga poses. I find ways to stretch my arms, my legs, my back, and torso. Sometimes I even plank (but not for very long, yet).
Move slowly. Focus on your breath, and reach for the sky. It feels a little silly when you first start doing it, but after a while, you’ll start to discover that it feels good. Sometimes, you even crave it. You can find some great beginners stretches here. Or, there are all kinds of beginner’s yoga videos on YouTube.
Stretching is a relaxing way to spend time getting to know your body.
4. Open Your Mind to Food
Just as with everything else in the self-help world, you have to open your mind to new possibilities. Stop saying you can’t eat this, or you won’t eat that, or you don’t like this, or you would never try that…etc.
If you say you can’t, you’re right. If you say you can, you’re also right. Which right do you want to be?
Try foods on the menu you normally wouldn’t. Try foods again that you’ve convinced yourself you didn’t like in the past. When I was a kid I HATED onions. As I got older and realized how many foods contain onions I decided people must like them for a reason. Now I understand how much flavor they can really add to a dish.
Try new restaurants. Try healthy recipes with ingredients you’re not familiar with. Educate yourself on foods you do love, but that aren’t healthy (personally, I love the Fooducate app for that). If you love food so much, help yourself to realize there is a whole world of food out there you haven’t even become acquainted with yet.
Healthy eating becomes so much simpler when you have more to choose from. You’re not going to like everything, but give everything an honest chance.
5. Walk Outside
Walking inside can feel boring and repetitive. Go for a short walk, even if it’s only 10 minutes, outside. Enjoy nature, notice your surroundings, listen to the sounds, focus on your breath, take time to clear your head and soak it all in.
Most of the general population can walk. It’s an easy and simple exercise. It’s something we’re good at and we have a lot of experience in. We walk every day to and from our homes and our jobs. We walk upstairs and down halls. Why not walk with the purpose of health and clarity?
I know when I don’t want to walk, I usually use the weather as an excuse. We’ve become wimps when it comes to hot, cold, or rainy. The truth is, for the majority of us, the weather is rarely severe enough that it keeps us from doing outdoor activities. At least where I live, there are probably only about 10-20 days a year where it’s so hot, so cold, storming, or there’s enough snow, that going outside is a really miserable experience.
If it’s cold, wear a coat and go out when it’s sunniest. If it’s hot, wear fewer clothes and go early or late in the day. Find a place where you like the scenery and enjoy nature. Mix it up! It’s not just about the exercise, it’s about taking a moment to notice the world around us and finding time to clear the clutter in our minds.
6. Maximize Your Time
If you really want to find small ways to live a healthier life, one way to do it is by getting creative with your time.
First, try combining daily activities with physical activities. I’m talking arm-curls while you watch TV, toe-touches while you’re in the shower, and butt clenches while you’re sitting on your ass at work.
Need to clean the house? Try speed-cleaning. Turn up the music and challenge yourself to do dishes, laundry, and dusting way faster than normal (please, don’t hurt yourself and then blame my blog).
If young children at home are an issue, like at my house, do it with them! Make family exercise time a daily requirement that you get to do together. Or, combine dinner and family time by cooking healthy meals together. I’ve found cooking together helps them be more open to trying new foods and be more appreciative about their plates.
The point is, you can give normal daily life a whole new purpose. Take your mundane tasks and add a healthy spin.
7. Make Me Time
If you don’t think your emotional/spiritual/mental health affects your physical health, then you’ve got a lot of reading to catch up on. You need Me time.
Me time is any time you spend on yourself doing things you love. Maybe it’s a bath, reading a good book, having dinner with a friend, crafting, writing or taking a nap. It’s time spent on yourself without any obligation to others. The problem with me time, especially for women, and especially-especially for mothers, is that we’re ingrained to believe it is the last priority. Our husbands are more important. Our children are more important. Dinner is more important. Work is more important. Making sure the TV is dusted, yep, more important.
As hard as it is to accept, none of that is true. Unless there’s an immediate crisis occurring in your space now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking, and in-fact demanding, me time. I would even argue that me time is most important in your life because it allows you to function at your highest level, therefore allowing you to be the best YOU, you can be, and therefore giving you the ability to take the best care of everything and everyone else in your life.
If you can’t accept that me time is most important, at least accept that it is equally important and know that you deserve it.
8. Take Your Vitamins
Taking your vitamins is the easiest habit of them all.
Food is so completely different now than it was even only thirty years ago, and not in a good way. It’s nearly a guarantee that you and I are not getting all the essential nutrients our bodies need to thrive. Do a little research and talk to your doctor about the benefits of a multivitamin (or perhaps other vitamins you may need in particular) and which one(s) is right for you.
Now, all you have to do is remember to take it. Set it on your nightstand or near your cell phone charger. Put it in your lunch box. Leave it on your desk at work or in your purse. Put it somewhere you will see it and remember to take it. If you’re a giant baby about taking large pills, go ahead and mash it up with some peanut butter, or even better, buy the adult gummies. Personally, Flintstones are still my favorite.
Getting healthy doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Start with one healthy habit a day, a week, or even a month if that’s what it takes. Slowly add in the other habits as you go. Approach it as a discovery process without adding any more pressure to your life. Look at your mistakes as opportunities to grow, and not as failures. If you have an open mind and a positive attitude, you’ll be feeling and looking better in no time.
Thanks for reading! Make sure you check out my Be Healthy board on Pinterest for even more ideas on making a healthy lifestyle more simple!
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“Target is good for your body, good for your mind, and good for your soul!”
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Target is a guilty pleasure, right? Well, don’t worry. I’m here to tell you, you don’t have to feel guilty about shopping there ANYMORE. Why? Because Target is GOOD for you. That’s right. Target is good for your body, good for your mind, and good for your soul! It can even be good for your wallet. Here’s why:
1. Target has Healthy Grocery Options
If you want to buy healthier food, Target is a great place to start. They have many healthy options to choose from that are organic and gluten-free. In this awesome blog post from another awesome blogger, you’ll find a lot of great healthy options from Super Target.
Plus, save time with Order Pick-up!
2. The Active Section at Target Makes You Want to Be Active
When I walk by the women’s active-wear section of Target, I’m totally like, “Man I would look cute working out in that. I really need to buy that and go work out.” Whether or not you actually work out after your purchase depends on your own personal motivation. I choose not to comment further.
3. Target Inspires Humor
I know you’ve seen this video. If you haven’t, and you love Target, you’re in for a sweet treat. Whenever I walk through the doors of Target now, I always pretend I’m Liza. Then I have to do it again, because I forgot my list. That girl is funny.
4. Target Saves You Money
Okay, I get that Target is pricier than some places (it’s also classier than some places…*cough* Wal-Mart) but have you ever couponed at Target? Couponing at Target is THE BOMB. Pre grad school, I was OBSESSED with couponing at Target. I’m not sure if it’s still as awesome, but back in the day you could combine manufacturing coupons with Target coupons with Cartwheel andREDcard! Plus, .05 more cents if you brought your own bags. How do they even make money like that? OMG. I once walked out with 6 boxes of cat litter fo FREE. FO FREE. And plenty of times I walked out with like 20 bottles of Panteen for $5.
Couponing is not for the sissy of heart. Cashiers may get cranky and look at you like you’re stealing… or crazy as shit. It’s actually jealousy. But everything I did was completely legal and followed the rules. Only a couple of times have I experienced a really kind cashier who thought my skills were pretty neato. If you’re interested in more, my best advice is to follow some Target couponing Facebook groups. Learning even the basics will save you some major dough. There is a learning curve so don’t get overwhelmed. Lurk in the groups for a while.
If you have an addictive personality, you may want to reconsider.
And…always make sure you read the Coupon Policy.
5. You Can Feel Good About Spending Your Money at Target
Target is an advocate for many important public issues, even when the issue is not so popular. They stand for women’s right to breastfeed in public, gender equality, and the LGBTQ community. In general, they strive for a society that is more diverse and inclusive of ALL people. Supporting them is supporting all. Read more about that here.
Plus, have you seen their Adaptive Clothing Line for kids? I’m in love!
6. Target Brings Out the Best in Us
Man, I don’t know what it is, but like I mentioned earlier, Target is just classier all around. I’m not judgmental. I believe everyone has the power to be awesome, but that doesn’t mean we always are. Certain places, *cough* Wal-Mart, for example, just don’t inspire me to brush my hair, or put on real pants.
Some other people, though, take it to a whole new level. I don’t know why, but at Target you don’t see people walking around shoe-less and in spandex. But at certain other places, this is not a surprising scenario.
I have never walked out of Target thinking, did I really just see that? Target encourages self-love and pride in one’s actions and appearance.
I mean, I think I always put on real pants when I go to Target. Sometimes, I brush my hair.
7. Target Encourages Journaling
I probably have 7 journals with not a word written in them because I can’t freaking pass up Target’s stationary section. I love to journal, but no one can journal that much! Still, every time I see a cute journal at Target, I feel like writing in it! If only I could journal in the store…
8. Target Has a Good Maternity Section
I’ve yet to find a store that really has a GREAT maternity section unless that’s what it specializes in, BUT Target is doing a great job to include a section as big as it does for us mammas. During my last pregnancy I found some really cute jeans that made me feel good about my body and some super cute shirts! Depending on your budget, it might feel a little pricey, but you deserve to feel fabulous during this special time, so go ahead and spend it! It’s nothing compared to pricier boutiques. And maternity clothes in good condition are a great buy-back at consignment shops.
It’s hard to tell here, but I’m wearing jeans from Target that made me feel good!
9. Target is a Great Place to Buy Unique Gifts
Target has so many fun things you can buy as great gifts. There’s so many cute things in the Home Decor section, so many mugs with unique and adorable sayings, and so many crafts to make from the Dollar Spot! There’s funny games and books. Did I mention cute journals?
There’s also lots of wine! Is wine a gift? (Side-note…did anyone hear the rumor about drinking wine while we shop? Is this real life? Tell me it’s true even if it isn’t.)
…And we’re back. Gifts. So many great gifts!
10. Target Has Giant Red Baskets in the Isles
I don’t know. I just really love the giant red baskets. Am I right?
There you have it. 10 reason you don’t have to feel guilty about shopping at Target ANYMORE! Don’t forget to use the links in the sidebar and footer if you want free shipping. Plus, DO NOT shop at Target without your REDcard. It can be credit or debit (I use debit, because I canNOT have more credit) and it saves you on EVERY transaction.
Comment below, pretty please! Share your Target love!
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“Baby stations are a fun and engaging way for your baby to explore their world, stay entertained, and allow you to get work done.”
The Star of this blog post is Little Miss A. She’s six months old now and I love her to pieces! If you’ve read My Story, you know having a third baby hasn’t been so completely wonderful or easy for me. I LOVE our new little Miss A. with all my heart and being…but adjusting to life with a baby this time around has been so much more difficult than with my previous two children.
It could because I’m so focused now on creating a new business, or the lasting postpartum depression, or the 7-year gap between her and my last child, or just a combination of all the above. In any case, I’m constantly looking for ways to keep my stress low and my sanity high.
Part of the reason babies are so stressful to care for is that they need constant attention and entertainment. Little Miss A. can do absolutely nothing for herself, of course. She needs me to clean her, feed her, warm her, love her, and entertain her!
But her little attention span is so damn short! One activity is only good for so long and then I better find something else to grab her attention before her little stork bite explodes from her forehead.
I want to share a little trick I use in my home, with those of you who struggle as well, especially new moms. I like to call it Baby Stations. What I do is set up a little station in different rooms of the house that give something different for little Miss A. to do. It’s similar to the way classrooms set up different learning stations in class for students to rotate. But in this case, you follow baby around to each station and interact with her or be close by if the toys just aren’t fun enough by themselves.
When Miss A. is tired of station 1, we move to station 2 and so on. Soon after feeding she is pretty happy so she will sit and play on her own for a bit while I do a task nearby. Then, when she gets a little moody I sit down and keep her company at the next station until she’s too moody to function. Finally, it’s nap or swing time, feeding time when she wakes, and the routine starts over.
Man, babies are exhausting!
Baby stations are a fun and engaging way for your baby to explore their world, stay entertained, and allow you to get work done.
Station 1. It’s Piano Playtime
This thing is a life-saver, I swear! I like to use it for the first station because it gives her tummy time to settle after eating when she’s happiest and it lets her have a good time without going too crazy and bending over. We started putting her in here when she was strong enough to hold her head up and started grabbing things with her fingers. But she’s nearly running out of it now and I know I’ll be so sad to see it go soon. She also has one of those bouncer/jumper sitters but she doesn’t really like it and I think it’s because it doesn’t give her the freedom to move like the Fisher-Price Piano. This thing lets her play music with her hands and feet, allows her to move back and forth, and it comes with detachable toys she can shake and rattle. Plus, the seat detaches, so when she starts standing…she can still play!
I use it in the living room while I run around the house picking up toys, doing dishes, or folding laundry. I know she’s safe enough to not be right next to me and I have an open living space so I can keep an eye on her. Since I put her here at her happiest, she doesn’t mind if I’m not within arms reach for a bit.
*I was going to provide a link to Target, which is which is where it was sold, but it doesn’t seem to be there anymore. Any kind of sit and play toy will work for this station. Don’t forget to use this Target link for free shipping if you want to buy something baby related. And get your REDcard first! There’s an ad in the sidebar and/or footer (at the time this post was published).
Station 2. Ready to Explore on the Floor
In this station, I set a blanket on the floor with some of her favorite toys. At 6 months old she’s really into smacking toys to make noise and putting them in her mouth to make sure they taste okay. Then, she might let herself lie back and play with a smaller toy in her hands. I don’t do this as the first station because sitting like this after she eats will often make her spit up. My older kids will sit and play with her too, and I’ll often sit right behind her on the couch while I watch a little TV and update my social media pages.
Station 3. Crazy Baby in a Walker
I can’t quite remember what my other two children were like in a walker, but Little Miss A. is a crazy woman! She runs like she’s going to take off flying! She’s really starting to grab cabinet doors, open drawers, put her mouth on chairs and push over the trash can…so it’s definitely important to keep a close eye on her. I have her walker set up in the kitchen so she can roll around while I’m fixing a meal, typing on my laptop, or getting a snack. But I have to watch my toes. She has no concept yet of the word No! Or, Ouch!
Station 4. Bedroom Music and Balls
When Miss A. gets tired of running into the trash bin, we head into her bedroom to relax and play a little. She got this fun new ball pit for babies on Christmas and she likes to listen to a toy piano I put on the floor. I sit behind her and rock in the chair and talk to her while she plays, drools all over, and smacks all the balls.
Station 5. And the Little One Said, Roll Over, Roll Over
The last station comes when Little Miss A. is starting to get pretty restless. At 6 months now, she’s frustrated because she really wants to move but hasn’t quite figured out how. I feel it’s important for her to have time where she lies on her own and practices rolling over, lifting her knees, and trying to crawl. Sometimes we will do this in her crib. The mobile makes her happy and she rolls side to side, pushing off the bars with her little feet. Other times, while I’m putting away clothes in my bedroom, I’ll lay a big blanket on the floor, put her in the middle and let her try to explore. She’s still getting frustrated after trying and not moving as far as she would like, but I feel letting her fuss a little is a good way to motivate her. Sometimes I’ll put a toy she really likes not too far from her so she can try to reach it. She gets pretty cranky, but she pushes those little knees and finally grabs it! I’m so proud of how far she’s come!
Okay, I gotta know. What do you do in your house to entertain the baby and still get stuff done?!
“Stop short-changing yourself, and everyone you love. When you’re at your best…every area of your life and every person in your life benefits… because they get the BEST you.”
If you’ve followed My Story, you know I’m training to be a Health Coach. I’ve been pretty open about it when people ask, but when you live in the Midwest and people around you don’t understand something, many times they don’t ask. They just look at you funny, nod, and smile. Or they look at me like the image below! Hahaha!
So let’s clear the air…
What a Health Coach Is
I’m not sure how other Coaches might answer this question, but I will tell you what I am training to be: A Master of Habit Change.
A great Health Coach does not simply give you advice, a ton of information, and then expect you to do the work. I mean, let’s be honest. You already KNOW what to do. You know what to eat, you know you should be exercising, and you know you can cut your stress levels and lose weight by doing A, B, and C. You’re simply not doing it. Why? Because it’s freaking hard, that’s why! Being healthy seems like a lot of work if you’re not used to it. You don’t know where to start. You’re not sure what to buy. You really don’t want to spend an hour a day at the gym, and you’re convinced everything causes cancer anyway, so why bother?
I HEAR you. Hell, I am you, or I was…not that long ago. The most important thing I have learned so far is that it doesn’t have to be so hard, so expensive, or so time-consuming. And everyone can do it if they have the right system in place, plus someone to give you a little kick in the ass a long the way.
You know what a football coach is, right? Well, it’s the same concept. I’m a coach. But instead of being a sports team coach, I’m a coach for YOU. Your very own personal coach for the game of life. And I’m not just here to support you…like a cheerleader, I’m here to STRETCH you. I’ll tell you when you’re doing great. I’ll also tell you when you can do better. There’s no diet or short-term fixes. I’m here to help you make changes that will last forever, so you can live the longest and fullest life possible. Coaches help you find your happy place.
What a Health Coach Is Not
A Health Coach is not a therapist, counselor, doctor, nutritionist or any other medical professional of the sort. However, they do share pieces of knowledge pertaining to each of these fields (depends on the Coach and their background). Coaches should not give you any professional advice that might affect your well-being in a negative way. Health Coaches can, however, refer you to such a professional if the scope of the problem goes beyond our reach and we can work together with these professionals to get you optimal results. It all depends on your unique situation.
Why Someone Might Want a Health Coach
A person might want a health coach for a variety of reasons. You might want a health coach to help you lose weight, manage stress, accomplish fitness goals, sleep better, hydrate better, gain weight, increase energy, improve eating behaviors, improve fitness habits, boost your body confidence, boost your nutrition, optimize any health goals, quit addictive behaviors, and so much more!
Why Health Coaching is SO Worth Your Money
Bare with me. I could write forever on this topic.
I’ve said this 100 times and I will say it a 1000 more. There is no better investment than an investment in YOURSELF. People who’ve never heard of a Health or Life Coach usually will roll their eyes, turn their heads, open their mouths and crinkle their noses at the first sound of the words Health Coach. And then when you talk about cost, their eyes get huge and they say, “Why would I pay you that? I already know how to be healthy.” Yeah, you do. So why haven’t you done it?
Yeah, having your own personal coach isn’t “cheap” but it’s not expensive either, when you break it down. I kind of hate it when I have to jump through hoops to figure out prices so I’m just going to be direct with you here. A starting coach can easily charge $1000-$1200 for a 90 day program and have no problem getting clients. That means you’re paying $11-$12 a day for a TOTAL LIFE TRANSFORMATION.
When your health is better, EVERYTHING is better. Your mental state is better, your stress level is better, your sex life is better, your confidence, your concentration, your social life, your parenting, your work and business skills…do I need to go on? Improving your health IMPROVES YOUR LIFE.
Broke? Yeah, me too. But that didn’t stop me from paying for the certification program, growing my blog, and buying personal development books. Because I know all this self-improvement is going to pay me big someday. Maybe you can’t have it now, but don’t tell yourself you can’t have it at all. How important is it for you to be healthy? Cut cable, reduce your weekly eating out limit, create a strict budget, or even apply for a credit card (with careful planning). Your health is that important, and being your best self will pay you back in so many ways.
If you still think it costs too much, ask yourself this: What could you possibly use that money for that would improve your life just as drastically? You probably spent that much money, at least, on fast food in the last three months. Am I right? I know I did not that long ago.
Stop short-changing yourself, and everyone you love. When you’re at your best…every area of your life and every person in your life benefits… because they get the BEST you.
A Special Deal for You
I’m still a newbie and I will consider myself a newbie until the program is over and I feel confident enough in my skills and ability to really hone in on my style and make the coaching program my own. That’s really good news for you because you get a MAJOR discount if you decide to work with me during this stage of my development.
Right now, I’m taking practice clients. And only a few. I can’t take too many because I’m still working a part-time job and raising an infant. If you’re interested… act now before I fill up with this special price.
Being my practice client doesn’t mean you get any less value for the program. The program is already done and mastered, ready to go for you… I’m just delivering it without knowing the whole picture yet, and maybe sounding a little scripted because I haven’t made it my own. That’s why I’m giving you a huge discount. Right now, I’m focusing on weight loss. So, you get the full Total Weight-Loss Transformation: The 90 Day Intensive for $500. That’s not even $6 a day. And don’t worry, we never meet in person. It’s all over the phone!
Don’t decide yet. First, schedule your free Weight-Loss Resistance Breakthrough Session with me to uncover what’s been stopping you so far and make a plan for the future. In the Breakthrough Session you will:
*Uncover what’s been stopping you, slowing you down, or keeping you from having the body and health that you desire
*Develop a powerful vision for what an ideal healthy life looks like
*Discover what habits are keeping you from having a body that you love
*Get crystal clear on a step-by-step plan to successfully transform your body and mind in 90 days
And, if we decide this isn’t the right decision for you now, that’s totally okay too. I need to practice the conversation method and it’s still an awesome breakthrough for your health.
Make your appointment here: https://thewiserlife.setmore.com/
Do You Have a Refund Policy?
Absolutely not. Why? Because I can guarantee there will be parts of the coaching process that will make you want to run screaming away. Being uncomfortable is a huge sign of progress. I’m not going to just support you, I’m going to STRETCH you, remember? Having a refund policy only gives you an out. Not having a refund policy makes you commit to the process for every cent it’s worth.
If you finish the program and decide it was not a positive experience, you are welcome to write me a terrible review and I will post it on my testimonials web page. I say that because I am absolutely confident it will not happen.
Even if you don’t work with me, I urge you to set a goal and get a Health Coach in your life. Health not a concern now? Get a life coach (I’m training for that too…), a business coach, or a relationship coach, There are coaches for everything. Do your research, read testimonials and pick someone who fits your needs. It will be a life-changing experience and you will be able to reach goals you didn’t before think were possible.
I Want to Become a Health Coach!
You do!? That’s awesome! Please look into the program I’m going through and use this link http://www.healthcoachinstitute.com/getstarted?referral_code= and my referral code H5EXENL0 to get your discount if you decide it’s the program for you. Please research other programs as well. I’m happy to answer any questions you might have during your journey. It really isn’t just about eating and movement. It’s a holistic program meant to address the person as a whole.
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